what to do? pee trained not poo trained

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what to do? pee trained not poo trained
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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 12:16am

I posted a couple of weeks ago asking if my 2 and a half year old was ready to train.


Well, he has only had 4 pee accidents in a week and a half. And two of those were when he was just super occupied and didn't want to take the time. He will get up himself 90% of the time and go pee.


Problem is, when we started this, he developed diarrhea. He had it for a week. So we had been letting him wear a diaper since he couldn't control his bowel movements. Now that his poop is semi-solid again, he either can't control it still, or won't control it, since he didn't for a week and a half. (He would still go pee in the potty. He'd actually take off the diaper and go pee, and I'd put it back on, in case of accidents, I had ruined about 3 pairs of underwear, a rug and a kitchen floor before I resorted to the diaper again)


I'm not sure what to do. Sometimes he knows he's going to poop. Today, he went to go potty and he was getting his underwear off and pooped on the floor. So I don't think he could control it then. But then later, he was just sitting there and pooped. He's not really showing me the signs he usually does to let me know he has to poop.


Any ideas?

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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 3:28pm

First, congrats on the first step!

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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 8:51pm

I was giving candy and/or stickers for peeing and pooping. He has pooped a couple times, but that was also when he was having the diarrhea and I don't think he could help it coming out.


Now, I don't give candy, and I will give a sticker sometimes. (I admit, I'm not consistent.)


He isn't pooping when I'm in the room. So it's kind of hard to tell if he has control.


Today when he did it (yes, he pooped on our rug again today), I saw him stand up, and he started to cry. Not sure if it had already happened, or if he was standing to poop.


I forgot about something. I think he does have control some of the time. He was standing up and kind of spreading his legs a little bit and then I'd hear him pass gas. Which since he still had rather loose stools, was accompanied by poop.


So I'm all confused. Should I let him wear underwear even though he's pooping every time in them?

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Thu, 08-13-2009 - 1:31pm

It is so frustrating, isn't it?

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Thu, 08-13-2009 - 5:02pm

Ok, he had diarrhea again today. And he was fidgeting around, so I could tell what was going on.


I said let's go poo poo in the potty. He went to the potty, and had a little poop that was on me, but he wouldnt' go in the potty.


Then he asked for a diaper and I finally gave him a pull up and he went and hid in the closet to go poop.


So I'd say, yes he can control the bowels now. But for some reason, he's scared to go on the potty. Even saying I'll take you to your favorite place didn't budge him.


But man, the bowel control on that kid rivals an adults.




Edited 8/13/2009 5:04 pm ET by ekusmma
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Thu, 08-13-2009 - 7:04pm

It does sound like you have a two-tiered problem, both the diarrhea and the bowel control. If your ds can tell when he needs to poop, then let him stay in undies until he needs to poop. Just focus on the urine training.

When ds needs to poop, have him ask for a diaper or pull-up. After several weeks, you can begin poop training. When you're ready to poop train, when ds asks for a diaper, take him to the toilet instead. Since he'll have asked for a diaper, you'll know his urge to poop is strong, so take advantage of it.

If your ds can't tell when he needs to poop, then I'd hold off on all potty training until his stool gets firmer and easier to control.

BTW, are you using the BRAT diet to try to firm up ds poop? In addition to the bananas, rice, applesauce, and toast (all white flour products with no fiber), you might also consider adding probiotics to your ds diet. Probiotics are the good bacteria found in yogurt (or you can buy probiotic supplements at the store) that improve the health of the digestive tract. Probiotics are good for both diarrhea and constipation since those are both usually imbalances in health of the digestive tract.

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Thu, 08-13-2009 - 10:52pm

he was on the brat diet, then it got better for a few days, and now it's back again.


But it was only once, so I'm hoping it was a fluke. When he