At wits end :-(

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Registered: 03-09-2006
At wits end :-(
Mon, 08-24-2009 - 2:16pm

I am in serious need of help - don't know what to do.

My daughter will not potty train. We have tried stickers, chocolates etc... Nothing seems to work she just doesn't care. Just this morning she peed on the floor in the kitchen and then walked around in pee soaked panties without saying anything. She doesn't care if she gets changed, she doesn't want to train but is perfectly capable of going on the potty. She has done it before but will not do it on command and often fights even having her diaper

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Registered: 09-22-2005
Mon, 08-24-2009 - 8:43pm

Hey! I miss seeing you on our PG... or maybe I have missed your threads...

Regarding potty-training: Have you considered or tried going straight to undies? It is more work for you, but a kid who may not mind a dirty diaper may be more bothered or notice wet fabric. How about making her clean up her accidents?

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Registered: 06-25-2005
Mon, 08-24-2009 - 9:05pm

I agree with the PP but I think it's more effective when you use thick training underpants (3- to 5-ply training underpants) with vinyl underpants over them (like the vinyl covers you put over cloth diapers).

Thin regular underpants let most of the urine through, so although your dd is slightly damp, she's not necessarily uncomfortable. Thicker training underpants hold more moisture. That reduces the messes plus creates more sensory awareness for your dd since she can better feel the discomfort of being wet. The vinyl underpants helps reduce messes as well.

Alternately, some kids do better with the naked method (no pants/undies). Some kids are just more alert when they're naked and/or some kids aren't bothered by wetting their undies but they are bothered by urinating directly onto the floor.

Also, if it becomes too big of a battle, there's nothing wrong with waiting a couple of months before trying again.