At Wits end

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Registered: 12-21-2007
At Wits end
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Wed, 03-11-2009 - 2:51pm

Ok, my son is 3.

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Registered: 06-25-2005
In reply to: mom2drewboy
Wed, 03-11-2009 - 11:22pm

If your ds poops in his undies, have HIM clean up the mess. He needs to put the poop in the toilet and wash out the undies by hand in the sink (you can help, but he needs to do enough of the work to be affected by the consequence of his choice to poop in his undies). Right now your ds has no motivation to poop anywhere else because HE is not being affected by his choice since you're the one doing the icky work.

If washing out his own soiled undies isn't motivation enough, you can add additional negative consequences, such as loss of TV time. Pooping in undies needs to become very undesirable to ds.

If your ds asks for a pull-up or uses the toilet, he can be rewarded (small reward for pull-up, and bigger reward for toilet since that's where you really want him to poop).

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Registered: 12-21-2007
In reply to: mom2drewboy
Fri, 03-13-2009 - 10:53am

Thank you for your post......however the idea of my 3 year helping me clean up the poop is less than desirable......ewwww


But, you are right, maybe if he had the consequences it would help.....but since I am an

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Registered: 11-06-2001
In reply to: mom2drewboy
Fri, 03-13-2009 - 4:31pm
Hi there,

I feel your pain... My son is almost 4, and he still refuses to poop in the potty. The one thing he has been doing for about 4 months, is that he puts on a diaper (on his own) when he is ready to poopy. I know I probably should be thankful for this, BUT, I think it's time he should poop in the potty.

When I try to put him on the potty, he adamantly refuses (kicks and screams). You'd think the potty is a monster about to eat him. haha... Whenever i ask him why he doesn't like pooping in the potty, he says that he's scared of it. I've tried the rewards method, but that doesn't work either. He actually chooses to poop in the diaper over getting a new toy. He even tells me that he doesn't want a new toy. I'm out of ideas and am also (like you) at wits end.

I'm afraid I'll have a kindergartener who would not know how to poop in the potty. I'm really worried. I see no signs from him of "getting it". I sure hope somebody out there can give us ideas.

THanks for your post. Glad to know that I'm not the only one.
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Registered: 04-11-2004
In reply to: mom2drewboy
Fri, 03-13-2009 - 9:59pm

mom2drewby, Hi and welcome to the Toilet Teaching board.

I agree with the previous poster. Have your DS help with the clean up after an accident. Have him rinse out the clothes, and then put them in the hamper/washer/where ever you would like them, and then have him get himself dressed again. Please keep us updated on your DS progress.

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Registered: 04-11-2004
In reply to: mom2drewboy
Fri, 03-13-2009 - 10:05pm
mwheland, My advice, is to tell your DS when he puts on a diaper to poop he needs to stay in the bathroom. He can stand, sit on the floor, tub where ever, and then after a week, try having him sit on the potty with his diaper on. After another week if possible cut a hole towards the middle/back of the diaper so when he sits on the potty, most of the poop will fall into the potty. Then after another week try removing the diaper. If you notice your DS is still having some trouble using the potty, try putting a belt or tie something around his waist, as this will help relax the muscles that are needed to poop. I hope that helps. Please keep us updated on your DS progress.
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