Training from a Toddler's Perspective

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Training from a Toddler's Perspective
Wed, 02-18-2009 - 10:36pm

Here is an article that I received in my email today, and I wanted to share.

Training from a Toddler's Perspective
by Jan Faull M.Ed., Washington

"Before your frustration starts to show during the potty training process, stop to think about what it's like for your little potty trainer and how the process may look and feel to him. As your child moves from being a baby to aBig Kid® , they are up against many emotional and physical frustrations. Between the accidents and simply refusing to use the potty, it's enough to make any parent frazzled. Jan Faull, formerPULL-UPS® Potty Training Partner and potty coach provides these useful insights for viewing potty training from a toddler's perspective:

Kids Just Want To Have Fun
Stage: Your toddler is no doubt as active as you've ever seen him. He is exploring the great outdoors - digging through dirt and stomping through your flower beds. It's no wonder he doesn't want to go inside to go potty - he's having too much fun!

Tip: Make potty training as entertaining for him as you can. Bring his outdoor fun and games indoors. Take his bug collection into the bathroom or imagine that his favorite teddy bear needs to go potty and wants your child to go too. You'll need to give him a good reason to go inside and go potty…and we guarantee it'll have to be a fun one!

There's No Turning Back
Stage: You're probably starting to live the old adage "I can't turn my back on him for a second." That's because he's at the age where curiosity is motivating him and he can't help but explore everything.

Tip: Explain and show him how everything related to potty training works - how the toilet works, where the water goes, what soap does when you wash your hands. It may require a little research on your part, but it may just satisfy his curiosity…and keep him interested in potty training.

Honey, I Shrunk the Bathroom
Stage: Toddlers are motivated by sights, sounds and touch. In fact, you may find he can't keep his hands off anything. But imagine walking into a bathroom and not being able to reach anything!

Tip: Put everything potty training related within his reach. Bring in a step stool for the sink, set up a shelf closer to the ground where you can keep his soap and hand towel and hang his progress chart at eye level. You'll find your child may be more motivated to train when things are on a smaller scale.

Home Sweet Home
Stage: The unexplored world beyond your home is new and exciting. But no matter how excited a toddler is to learn and see more of the world, he can still feel anxious in unfamiliar surroundings.

Tip: Make him feel as secure as possible in the potty training environment away from home, whether it's a trip to grandma's and grandpa's or just an outing to the zoo. Bring along a favorite toy or potty training book for familiarity. If possible, pack his potty seat so there is consistency away from home.

We know you've heard it before, but potty training doesn't happen overnight. So when you are almost ready to throw in the towel, take a deep breath and try to imagine the world of potty training from your toddler's point-of-view.