3 year old shy

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Registered: 05-15-2007
3 year old shy
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Mon, 01-24-2011 - 1:24pm

My son just turned 3 and recently he has been really shy in certain situations.

diane08
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Registered: 05-12-2005
Mon, 01-24-2011 - 4:56pm
Logan was/is the same way. It is probably partially the age.. but I think mostly his personality. Logan is shy and needs time to warm up to a situation. Its just the way he is. I bet once you get him in a low key activity (like story time) - and he sees the same faces over and over again.. he'll relax. I work very hard on transitions.. so I would tell Logan about the story time days before it happened - and tell him what he could expect. Then I would sit with him at story time without forcing him to interact with anyone... if he warms up, then fantastic - I would try to get him to participate a little at a time... but if he didn't, I'd wait to encourage him until the next time. Then afterwards I would talk to him about all the things he LIKED about it... and then start the process over again for the next session.

Let us know how it goes!
 

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Registered: 05-15-2007
Tue, 01-25-2011 - 2:41pm
Well storytime was a bust. But I sort of expected it. Stroytime is at the library and whenever we go to the library he plays on the kid computers and the train set. So when we walked in he made a beeline for the computers. I talked to him before we went and explained that first we are doing storytime with a teacher and the other kids, then if he listens to me he could play on the computers. We had a standoff in the hallway - he wanted computers and I wanted to go in the story room.
I gave him a countdown, he didn't listen, so we went right back out to the car and headed home. This is especially difficult becuase I am also pushing a stroller as I'm carrying my kid like a football back out to the car. I could feel the eyes on me looking on with pitty.
He cried, meltdown in the van, embarrassed when we got home, all of what I expected.
We'll try again next week and hopefully we'll make it in the room. Now he knows that he won't get the computers if he doesn't listen to me, so that may help. It typically takes 3 weeks/tries at something new before he loosens up. I'm prepared to let him sit and watch and not necessarily participate, but I couldn't even get him to willingly go in the room.
In addition to shy, he is extremely head strong (guess where he got that). ARG!
diane08