Aggressive 2 yr old

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Registered: 06-01-2009
Aggressive 2 yr old
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Mon, 04-12-2010 - 6:56pm
I watch a 2 yr old in my home.
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Registered: 11-27-2007
Tue, 04-13-2010 - 12:15pm
Yeah, she sounds like a pretty bad influence. It's unfortunate because maybe she receives aggressive treatment at home. But I'm sure you don't want your kids to put up with that. I know it's normal for kids around that age to be a bit aggressive, but it definitely sounds like she has crossed the line. I find it odd that she wouldn't display that behavior at home in front of her mom. Head butting sounds like learned behavior to me. Does she have siblings?
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Tue, 04-13-2010 - 1:43pm
No, she is an only child.
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Registered: 11-08-2007
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 10:19am
UGH, that's hard when TO doesn't effect them. "I go to time out" *SIGH* Have you sat her down and explained to her how her actions hurt the other kids? Tell her the "happy hands" are good, but "mean hands" make her friends sad. Another thing I've heard is to ignore the hitter and SHOWER
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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 12:14pm
The only thing I will add to this is that if it's unclear if the one who got hit "provoked" it in someway...stealing a toy, saying something mean, etc (because USUALLY it takes 2 to tango..even if one isn't physical doesn't mean he/she is completely blameless) I enforce double time outs...Respect is a huge issue for me...I have a little cousin who is very aggressive with my girls, and although it KILLS ME when he pushes or hits one of them, I know when they say "no boys" it's provoking an attack. I tell them, they need to play and be friends with everyone...not just girls...so everyone gets a breather...I've noticed it reduces the amounts of attacks...maybe cause he feels he's being listened to?? I don't know..it just seems to work out for everyone...(lol even though as a mom I want to lock him in a playpen for the rest of the day because he was mean to my babies...)
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Registered: 04-08-2008
Sat, 04-17-2010 - 2:05am

Does she understand what hurting is? My DS knows what "ouchie" is now and that helped us a lot. He is very aggressive with me (all his attacks centered around me but he was a little rough w/other kids too). I would grab him and say "look at me"...he hates this bc he knew it meant he was in trouble...and say, "you gave mommy an ouchie. We don't bite/pinch/pull hair bc it's not nice. Be gentle!" Then it was TO for whatever it was. I think he hated the little speech more than the TO tho!

Also, DS loves the play gym at the rec centre. Whenever he was too aggressive there, it meant we left IMMEDIATELY. He has been very good there now.

He still likes to jump on me or hits me when he is upset but there has been no biting/hair pulling/pinching for a few months now :)

Also,I would warn the parent that this behaviour has to be resolved if she wants to keep you as a babysitter. It doesn't sound like she is taking it seriously!

Dee