Are Time-Outs Effective?

Community Leader
Registered: 04-08-2008
Are Time-Outs Effective?
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Fri, 04-26-2013 - 8:00am

So there I was last week, perusing a preschool parent handbook, when I stumbled across a curious anti-timeout policy. “Time-out is not an effective form of discipline,” the packet explained. “This focuses on the negative and alienates the child.”

I felt an immediate pang of guilt. I’ve given my almost-2-year-old a handful of timeouts -- defined as a brief time away from rewarding stimuli like toys, parents, and friends -- for hitting the dog, throwing rocks, and standing on chairs. A few Google searches later, I learned that proponents of attachment parenting advise against timeouts because the interventions give kids “the feeling of being rejected by their parents.” This backlash isn’t even that new -- Child magazine published (and Parents magazine republished) an article in 2003 called “Why Time-Out Is Out.”

Have my attempts to raise a good little boy scarred him for life? Or are these anti-punishment policies way overprotective and perhaps even harmful?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/25/do-timeouts-really-work_n_3157569.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

Interesting!  What do you all think? Are time-outs an effective form of discipline in your house?

Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Fri, 05-03-2013 - 11:43am
Sounds exactly like my 3 right in order!! Madison is a "work in progress" at the moment LOL! I've actually had to get her teacher involved to brainstorm because she is sooo good at school but a little terror at home lately!
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Community Leader
Registered: 04-08-2008
Thu, 05-02-2013 - 7:50am

I totally agree that you have to do what works for each individual child.  It always amazes me how different my children are being that they are all raised in the same house with the same parents and rules.  But they are SO different and one thing that works for one, doesn't for the other.  Positive reinforcement seems to be the ONLY thing that works for my middle guy.  Time out was all I needed to do with my oldest.  My youngest is in his own world and something that works one day won't the other!  

Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Fri, 04-26-2013 - 12:19pm

I think all children are different based on their personalities and you need to adapt your parenting and discipline to that particular child.  My oldest one, you could count and by 2 she had straightened up, I rarely had to do more than that to discipline her.  My middle one, not much works, period, not spankings, and yes, we do spank on occassion, time outs, not much, she needs lots of positive reinforcement.  Taking away things does work on occasion though, such as the Ipad.  My littlest temper tantrum thrower, time outs work as long as we stay consistent with them, but not much else works, not even positive reinforcement.  Sometimes kids need a break to disconnect from whatever it is that is stimulating them, or causing them to act out to reset themselves and their brain. 

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