Boys -Holding Pee/Refusing to Pee

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Registered: 02-09-2009
Boys -Holding Pee/Refusing to Pee
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Thu, 03-08-2012 - 9:16pm

Hello everyone, I'm hoping someone has run into the before and can provide BTDT experience.

My 3 yr old was toilet trained (just pee, we're working on #2) several months ago.

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 1:21pm
Hi Nicole,

Welcome to the board! It can be so hard dealing with a really strong willed child! I have a few of my own so I know what it is like!

My middle guy did the same thing when he was training. He would refuse to go on the toilet unless it was his idea to do so. Half the time I think he would get caught up with playing and just didn't want to stop what he was doing.

Have you tried going back to the basics of training and maybe start an incentive chart? For example, each time he goes without putting up a fuss, he earns a sticker. Once he gets a certain number of stickers, he could trade it in for a prize or treat. It may sound silly, but it worked for my guy. Instead of constantly nagging him to use the potty, we turned it into positive reinforcement (which he always responds well to).

Good luck finding something that works well! Let us know how things are going.

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Registered: 02-09-2009
Tue, 03-13-2012 - 7:58am

Thanks Kristy,

I think we will have to try a positive reinforcement for him. When he was training we did the M&Ms and that worked. He loves stickers so we'll try that this time round. I think the key is to do the talking up before hand because trying to bribe him when he's upset certainly won't work. lol

nicole-2.jpg picture by jersey474

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Tue, 03-13-2012 - 2:10pm
Good luck, Nicole! I hope the positive reinforcement works. It is so frustrating to be parenting a strong-willed child. In my years of parenting I've come to the conclusion that kids have total control over three things: when/what they will eat, when they will fall asleep, and when they will go to the bathroom. It's been my experience that the more I back off on most of these things, the more cooperative they are (guess because they feel like they have the control?). Anyway... good luck and please let us know how things are going!