Can anyone help me?!?!?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Can anyone help me?!?!?
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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 6:19pm
Hi! I'm new here and looking for a little advice. My almost 2-1/2 yo DS screams - A LOT! He screams when he's unhappy, happy, mad, sad, frustrated, etc., etc. I don't know what to do, and I'm feel like I'm going to lose my mind. He does have a mild speech delay, but I really think he's doing it to push my buttons. Any ideas on how to handle this? I've tried ignoring the screaming, time-outs (which of course he screams through), and reminding him to use his inside voice. I'm also trying to help him understand and name the emotions he's feeling. If I'm honest, ignoring the screaming seemed to work out the best, but I don't know if this is really the best way to handle it. I don't know what else to do...

Any suggestions greatly appreciated.

TIA!

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 8:51pm
Well Jenny is almost 3 and I swear she doesn't know how to talk without yelling. It bugs dh to no end because she will scream/throw a fit for everything... it doesn't matter what it is. Now my 5 year old went through something similar and at about 3 1/2 or 4 we finally got the fits to pretty much stop. I wish I could give you a sure all for ending it but I don't think there is any except perserverance. Sorry. I didn't figure it out for #1 dd and going through it again with #2 dd, God help me next year when #3 dd will be that age... so I'll be watching the responses because if there is a cure all answer I'd love to know too.

Andrea

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 9:35pm
A few ideas. Has his hearing ever been checked?

My ds had "glue" ear for the first year of his life. He never had that many actual infections, but constant fluid. This fluid caused him to have a 30-40% hearing loss before tubes were put in when he was 14 mo.

Also - how does he sleep? Last winter, ds had a bout with strep throat which left his tonsils inflamed. It was also noted that his adenoids were enlarged. This caused a restless night (for everyone in the house!) as he snored incessantly to the point he'd wake himself up. DS had surgery to remove them all, and thereafter, his behaviour and loud voice improved to a noticable degree. :) DS also has speech issues, which he's currently receiving speech therapy for, and it's going well. :)

Good luck! I don't pop here in too regularly, but if or anyone else has any other questions that aren't addressed here on the board, feel free to email me!

Nakaa - nakaa13@earthlink.net



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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 10:00pm
I wouldn't worry too much about your son's speech delay. Most boys develop slower than girls, as we all know. My doctor told me at a well-check that boys will tend to develop dramatically slower in speech than girls of the same age. I also read in "What to Expect, the toddler years," that most children of this age(my son's age as well) who can spout off the alphabet and count to ten usually watch too much tv and are repeating what they hear. About his yelling, I would recommend ear plugs?? J/K. Mikey yells a lot when he gets frustrated. I think it is that age. His screaming tantrums last a long time. Depends on his mood and health. Did you ask your pediatrician??
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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 10:37pm
Although I'm responding to myself, I hope everyone who posted thoughts/suggestions gets this message (still getting the hang of the boards!). I wanted to thank everyone for responding to my post.

It sounds like this is a stage my 1st DS will be going through for sometime followed with my 2nd DS going through it right after - YIKES! Ear plugs might be a purchase in my near future LOL!

My DS had a hearing evaluation at 15 mos, but is due to have another one at 3 years. He's in speech therapy right now, so I'm hoping that will help him to express himself a little better. Interestingly enough, he is quite the snorer. I've thought for a while he might have a sleep issue. Might be a good question for the pediatrician...

Thanks again everyone!

Jill :)

PS If I come up with a cure, I'll let you all know. I just hope til then I can keep my sanity!

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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 11:01am
mostly hugs and comfort! my 2.5 ds also goes through screaming fits,which i'm hoping is just a stage. yeah right, lol! his hearing is great because one tactic i've tried is to whisper to him when he starts yelling. he stops yelling just so he can hear what i said. so to some extent yelling seems to be a new and effective way to get lots of attention (esp. from others in the market when he points at canned corn and yells "i want porn! right now!" lol)

good luck

geri and joshua 10/5/00

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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 5:21pm
If I'm not too late.... Both of my children are loud, but they do *everything* to the extremes. Its part of their nature. DS had trouble w/ his ears and had plugs put in and his adenoids removed at 17 mos. Fortunately, his speech and hearing wasn't affected by it. He was talking in complete sentences *way* before his surgery. DD has a bit of a speech delay, but it doesn't stop her from talking constantly. She is having her hearing tested (tho she seems to hear well) and her speech evaluated this month at her 4yr checkup.

Just wanted to say that sometimes there is a medical reason, sometimes its just the personality. We always remind our kids to speak in their "inside voices" too. And we do the "I can't understand you when you yell" (or...talk loudly, whine, etc). That usually helps. And yes.....I've considered ear plugs myself, LOL!

One other thought: do you usually have the TV or radio on? Any other noise(s) that they have gotten used to speaking over? Sometimes the habit is formed that way.







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