Dealing with a picky eater

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
Dealing with a picky eater
Wed, 08-07-2013 - 11:36am

I've done what all the books say to do: introduce her to new foods and textures, make her a part of the cooking and shopping. I don't make her special meals. She eats with us and if she won't eat, there is no snack or dessert waiting to appease her empty stomach. This morning, after she threw her bowl of oatmeal to the floor (a meal she requested), I made her pick it up and put it in the sink.

"I want a cookie," she said.


"I so hungry."

"You should have thought about that before you threw your food. Now, there is nothing to eat until lunch. Good luck."




At this point, I know enough to walk away. Reasoning with a toddler is like giving Iran the bomb. They could not know how to use them and we will all be fine. Or they could burn us all to the ground. It's not something you want to risk. Walk away.

Oh how I can understand where the author is coming from!  Is your 2/3 yr old a picky eater?  How do you deal with the pickiness?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
Mon, 08-12-2013 - 1:20pm

Trying new things is my biggest struggle I think.  My boys just will not do it and it can be so frustrating.  Even a new dessert, muffin, bread, etc.  They just will not try it if they are not familiar with it.  The few times I finally get them to try something they usually love it.  I like your idea about having them help plan and cook!  I'll have to give that a try and see if it helps at all. 

Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Mon, 08-12-2013 - 11:23am

I was a terribly picky eater, and my oldest picked up those habits.  I did the horrible thing and since it was just her and I, I catered most meals around what she did like, which was usually what I liked also.  It was hard when I got married and DH was not as understanding about the pickiness.  I have changed things for my littler ones.  Luckily neither is too picky, but they definitely are reluctant to try new things.  The littlest one loves to help me cook and is much more apt to eat things that she helped prepare, so I try and so what i can to get them involved in meal planning, picking out at least one thing for a meal that they want and like, helping me prepare and cook meals, etc.