grandparents need advice

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Registered: 04-18-2004
grandparents need advice
Sat, 01-01-2011 - 11:54am

We are raising a three year old granddaughter. She has lived with us 1 month.

She is very mouthy,bossy,and rude.

She throws food and makes messies with her food.

When we tell her not to do something she does it anyway

Then she will go and poop on the floor ,or our bed ,or

anywhere other then the potty.

we need advice on what to do.

We have tried taking toys away but it doesn't do any good

She also fight with other kid.

She also kick and hits us.

Please anyone have advice

She can be very nice and helpful.

thank you

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Registered: 08-21-2005
Sat, 01-01-2011 - 9:36pm

It's normal for 3 year olds to test boundries and figure out their place in the world.

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Registered: 06-04-2010
Mon, 01-03-2011 - 7:06pm

Try watching this 5-part video series on YouTube by Dr. Kevin Leman - it might give you some ideas -

On the right under "Suggestions" you can go from one series to the next

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-20-2011 - 7:56am

What a great thing that you have taken your little granddaughter into your home and have taken on her parenting - not easy. to say the least.

Hugs, Jane

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Registered: 03-27-2008
Wed, 06-22-2011 - 10:10pm
I am sorry you are having to deal with all of this. I just want to say how wonderful it is that you are caring for your granddaughter. Part of it could be that she is adjusting to the change of everything, and doesn't know why or how to express it. I don't know the situation, so it is hard to say. My daughter is 3 1/2 and can be bossy and loud and rude. She tries to kick and hit us, but she really can be a sweet kid. I fully believe that this is a young kids way of showing independence. We still have so many things to tell them to do, but they think they are old enough to do their own. I've learned that the more we yell and scold and punish, the worse she gets. But when I offer lots of hugs and kisses, she acts better! I hope it all works out and your granddaughter snaps out of it and gets to be a wonderful experience for you.