Help! Weird things going on with my daughter...

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Registered: 03-07-2008
Help! Weird things going on with my daughter...
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Wed, 08-24-2011 - 8:45pm

Ok so my daughter has been acting out a bit lately. Examples: She was at her fathers house the other night and she was put to bed around 9. Around 11, she started screaming for her daddy. When he walked in, she was sitting on the bed naked. She had pee'd in the bed and taken off all her clothes to hide it... Then when her dad asked her what happened, she said the dog bit off her undies... So she lied. She's also been telling little lies here and there. I ignored it at first cuz i didnt think it was anything real. They were little things like telling me that she was playing with her friend from school last night when i know she wasnt cuz she was with me. BUT... the biggest thing that has me going nuts now is... last night we were reading a book before bed. Next thing i know, i look over at her, shes laying on the bed

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Registered: 07-26-1999

It looks like from your siggie your DD is just over 3 years old correct?

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Ditto what Tracy has mentioned already. I know that touching themselves at this age is really quite common. I remember taking my boys to a parade when my oldest was about 3 and he would not keep his hands out of his pants! I was totally embarrassed of course, until another mom leaned over and said "my son did the same thing at that age! No keeping his hands out of his pants!". I completely agree with not telling her that it is a bad thing. Perhaps a conversation about when it is and isn't appropriate would be a good thing to have with her. Like most things, I think this is just a phase that they eventually grow out of.

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Registered: 03-07-2008

Thanks a bunch to both of you! I feel a little bit better! I'm gonna keep researching and wont keep my very close eye on her because im still not a bunch comfortable with it. But thanks again for easing my worries a bit.

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Registered: 11-16-2007
I agree about the touching themselves. I have a boy, so of course, for whatever reason, that is more sociablly acceptable. When he touches himself, I say nothing unless we are out of the house. He is just learning about himself, and I believe it is normal. Mine turned 3 in May, and also has a habit of telling fibs. We HATE fibs, but it is part of a) testing their limits and b) using their imaginations. At this point, although I have (i'm prejudiced) the best boy around, he still does tell fibs. The important thing for us is to remind him that if we ask him for the true story, we need the true story. Unfortunately, I think he often believes his fib is true

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Registered: 03-27-2008
My daughter will be 4 in December and has been explorative with her body. I have done plenty of research and it is normal and yes, it can feel good, even as early as 18 months old! One thing I have read is that you should not tell them that it is bad to do, but that it is bad for ANYONE else to do, and that you need to be told immediately. i'm not saying she should be doing it, don't think that. She should know that it is normal for those feelings, but stuff should not be touched, especially by anyone else. And as for the lying, Madison also does it, but laughs and looks at me goofy while doing it, then says she is being silly. She just does it for laughs and to see what I say.
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