How do I get him to sit and stay????

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Registered: 04-06-2003
How do I get him to sit and stay????
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Sun, 04-06-2003 - 5:04pm
My two-year-old will not stay in a booster seat or a high chair. He scream and throws a multitude of tantrums when we go out with my mom to eat. He gets finished about the same time as me, but when we are with other people, especially other family members, they tend to take much longer, and get upset if he throws a fit and say it's my bad parenting. Once he climbs out of the seat, he is unhappy and will not go back under any circumstances. It's not safe or practical to allow a child of any age to run free throught a busy restaurant, under any circumstance. How do I keep my child occupied and happy while everyone else finished eating??? I have tried toys, and he ends up throwing them, along with everything else he gets his hands on. He thinks it's a game and when he is reprimanded he screams. Should I just forego eating out in public with my son???
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 04-06-2003 - 8:59pm
We went through this earlier this year too. We love to eat out, so totallly giving it up wasn't an option. We finallly just let him sit in a regular chair (much easier in a booth). He was allowed to sit on his knees or whatever was necessary to reach the food. There was DEFINITELY more wiggling and jumping on us involved, but the good news is that after a bit, he just got over wanting to sit that way. He realized he coulnd't reach his food and couldn't reach the crayons to color on the menus they give, etc. Now he sits great in a booster and sometimes asks for a high chair. Basically, for us at least, it was a phase. I would make a HUGE deal about sitting in a booster (call ithis big boy chair) and try it every time, but if it doesn't work, don't push it cuz then you are just fighting with him.

Other things that help with us is make sure he is really hungry when you go out. If he has just finished a snack or isn't really hungry, it will be a lot easier to get him to sit and eat. Our rule is you can play around a bit, but when the food comes, you have to sit in your big boy chair.

Also, finding kid friendly restaurants (and I don't mean McDonalds) often helps. There are a couple of restaurants here that keep toys for the kids. For some reason when it's not their toy, it sure holds the interest a lot longer.

Good luck. Hope this helps :-)

-L (ds Reuben age 2, and expecting in Sept.. I'm just lurking around tonight) :-)

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Registered: 04-06-2003
Mon, 04-07-2003 - 2:53am
I live in a small town, so kid-friendly isn't much of an option. But Your ideas seem invaluable. I always love getting advice from those who have been there. It usually doesn't go by the book and is more fun for everyone involved!!! Forgive me, though, what does "ds" mean??? Good luck with the family!!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-07-2003 - 9:50am
I am going through this now with my son. He is a very very active 2 tr old, as I'm guessing yours is to. It isn't that he wants to act up, it's that he just has so much energy he doesn't know what to do with it. It took me some time to learn that but from the help of another board I relized he just is so full of energy.

We go out alot too. It was getting so bad, that I couldn't even take him grocery shopping cuase he would climb out of the cart and run away. What I do is make sure he is really hungry before going out. That way he is more likely to sit and eat. And what I also do, and this may or may not work, but we bought a 5 dollar walkman and some kid tapes and when I am at the store or at a resturant we give him his music and he usually sits and listens to it. It has been a life saver. Best thing I ever bought. ANother thing is find ways for him to release his energy before going out. I have me ds(Dear Son) jump around before we go or I will take him out side and play. Belive it or not, it really works.

Good Luck, I know how hard it can be.

Johnna Mom to Mason 2

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 04-07-2003 - 3:28pm
Its a little bit unrealistic of them to expect your ds (dear son) to sit still once he's done eatting. Converstation is boring to children. And think about it, if you were eating dinner with people who were either talking about something you had no interest in or in a language you didn't understand, you'd be bored too.

A few things we've done to make our eatting out with ds more enjoyable for all of us...

We bring coloring books and crayons, some small toys. The toys are usually ones he hasn't played with for a while. We have also made up surprise boxes -- we don't tell him which toys we are bringing, he has to wait till we get to the restaurant to find out. We make sure that at least one of us is engaging him so he doesn't get bored. We also don't take out the toys right away. First we will do the coloring while we are waiting for the food. Then later when he's done eating but everyone else isn't we will ask if he wants to color some more or play with his toys. If after a while people are still eating and he is getting antsy, one of us will take him out for a walk around. That helps burn up some of his energy. If he is getting desert we have it brought close to when everyone is done or if others are having desert we will wait till then.

Hope that helps some,

Dawn