How do you explain that you are moving??

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Registered: 03-30-2003
How do you explain that you are moving??
Mon, 03-31-2003 - 11:44am
I have a 2 1/2 year old who is firmly entrenched in the "Mommy's car" "Daddy's room" phase. Everything has a label and he gets upset when you don't use what he thinks you need to be using.

I just got a new car recently and that went pretty well, calling it "Mommy's NEW car", and there was minimal fuss when we got rid of my old car.

Well, now we will be moving. How on Earth do I explain this to him? This is all a whirlwind. We are moving in less than a month and we will be taking a house hunting trip in a few days. The company (thank the goddess), will be packing us so I won't have to do this. But I don't know how, or when, to tell him.


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Mon, 03-31-2003 - 12:19pm
I would tell him now, if he gets that upset.

Since you just got a new car, and he understands that concept, maybe the concept of a NEW house with a NEW room for him won't be too hard for him to grasp. describe the new house to him and tell him what his new room will look like.

I am moving in 3 weeks and we took our ds house hunting with us. It makes things harder to check out the houses, but now he know where we are moving to. He goes to the window and points to our neighbor's house and tells me that he is moving there. He has a whole story made up, with how his room is decorated and he has 2 beds, one red and one purple and he has a sand box, etc. It is too cute!

I hope your move goes well!Katherine

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 03-31-2003 - 1:23pm
Oh it is wonderful to have the company pack you isn't it. We have moved several times and all but one time the company had people come in and do it all...was WONDERFUL!

Anyway...are you planning on taking him with you on the househunting trip? If so then that could be your entrance into explaining it. Telling him that you are moving to a new house and allowing him to take part in looking at new homes. Pointint out the positives in each house etc...

No matter what you do it will be very hard on him. It is a big adjustment and you will probably have several nights of no sleep, him calling the house someone elses's house and asking to go home etc.... We moved here to our current home when my DS was 2 1/2 and the move went ok...howeve for the first 3-4 months we got on almost a daily basis..."mommy why are we here at this ladies house", "this isn't my house", " I want to go home". One big that helped him adjust was we completely redecorated his room. Made him a part of picking out the colors, bedding, etc.... We also kept re-enforcing to him that all the stuff in our house was the same stuff we had in our old home.

As I said, it will be hard but he will do fine!

Good Luck!

Laura mom to Emily 9.2, Jordan 4.4 and baby #3(EDD 5/25)

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Emily 9 1/2, Jordan 4 1/2 and Carys born 5/2/03

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Mon, 03-31-2003 - 2:32pm
Yikes, I guess this gets worse.

We won't be moving into our home for a while, we will be staying in a corportate furnished apartment for at least 2 months. We will bring his crib and other items, but the stuff will not be ours. This happened so sudden and we don't want to buy a house and hate it (Like I know other people have when they had to make a quick decision).

He doesn't get very upset, but I want to make this easy for him.

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Mon, 03-31-2003 - 4:33pm
A year and a half later I'm still fielding questions about who lives in our old apartment now and where are the people who use to live here living now. And I love the "I wanna go back to our big house with the big stairs." Took me a long time to realize he meant the apartment -- it had vaulted ceilings and was upstairs so he thinks it was big.

To make the move easier on him we took him with us househunting. Took us longer and it was a pain not to mention embarrassing to have to ask the homeowners to let him use their bathrooms. When we settled on this house we let him pick which room would be his and help us decide where to put all his stuff. We talked excitedly about the move but did let him know that we would miss the old place (just didn't dwell on it). We made learning the new area an adventure.

Hope that helps some,