How do you help your child...

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How do you help your child...
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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 3:37pm

... cope with separation anxiety?


Tori Spelling's been tweeting about how her 2-year-old daughter Stella has been having separation anxiety when she gets dropped off at daycare. ("I said to Stella 'you get to go to school today & play and see your friends' & she smiled & said 'And you're gonna leave me.' My heart broke!")


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Fri, 08-06-2010 - 8:49am
I am a mom that needs help here. We've been taking our now 3 yr old son to daycare for the last 3 months. The first 2 days were ok. He was interested and didn't mind staying. Then he was out a week with a sinus infection. Upon returning from his illness, he started crying and pitching little fits. I have stayed home with him since he was born. We want him to be socialized and I am returning to school. How can we make the drop off at daycare better? I get stressed and sometimes cry because I don't know why he gets so worked up. Of course I don't let him see it. I've thought about changing daycares but this one is like the top rated for our community. It's really tough and any advice will be greatly appreciated!
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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 3:36pm

(((HUGS))) to you and your little guy.

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Fri, 08-13-2010 - 11:36am

I am very fortunate b/c both of my kids do really well. Our situation is a little different as they both started at an in-home DC at 4 months old (Mara is now 3 and Henry 7 months). I always keep my good-byes short and sweet. And actually the more clingy they get, the quicker I get out the door. Prolonging the good-bye seems to be disasterous in my experience (Mara has short phases where she gets clingy and whiny). And I'm always careful to say, "I'll pick you up later!" They need that reminder that even though mommy is dropping me off, she IS going to come get me. :)


Oh and I wouldn't switch DC if I were you-the change could just make it harder. If the seperation anxiety is the only issue you have with the daycare I'd stick it out! This too shall pass...


Another thought-anyone in his class that he could buddy up with? A playdate outside of DC might make it easier.


GL!!

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Fri, 08-13-2010 - 12:05pm
Luckily my LO adjusted pretty well as well. Since we dropped her when she was 1.5yrs, we found a home DC and also luckily her DCP speaks the same language that we speak at home. It so happened that my DH was the one to drop her off, so it was easy for her to adjust. When we all leave for work together, we always told her, everyone has to go to work and papa will pick her up as soon as possible in the evening. There were few days where the drop off was painful, especially the second week when she realized that we are leaving her in a different house. But we always kept her schedule the same and it helped a great deal to adjust.

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