How to get young kids to sleep in same bedroom?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2004
How to get young kids to sleep in same bedroom?
Sun, 01-22-2012 - 11:49pm

My daughters are 3 1/2 and 2 y/o and have just started sharing a bedroom in preparation for daughter #3's arrival this spring. They are wonderful friends already and get along really well (most of the time). Problem is, they think bedtime is just the beginning of their fun together. All we hear coming from their room is talking and giggling and goofing around. This can go on for over two hours some nights, no matter how often we tell them to be quiet and go to sleep. I know this seems like a good problem to have (children that get along so well) but they're turning into monsters during the day because they aren't getting enough sleep at night. We're in the first few weeks of them sleeping together so maybe the novelty will wear off?? In the meantime, any suggestions for how to get them to actually SLEEP in the same bedroom would be very appreciated!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
Oh my goodness! That's a difficult situation to resolve. I can certainly understand why they want to play (and why it is making them so cranky too!). My boys didn't share a bedroom at this age so I'm not sure if I have any fantastic advice to share with you. They started sharing a room when they were 5 and 7. We still had these problems but I was able to use a little bribery with them (If you don't stop talking, I'm turning off your radio). Even at there age now (11 and 8), I still have to get on them from time to time.

Have you tried to put the 2 y/o down to sleep first? Perhaps you could give that a try and then put the 3.5 yr old down once your youngest is asleep? Do you think she'd wake her up?

This is a tough one for sure and hopefully other ladies here will have some advice. iVillage also has a Sleep Training board you may want to visit. The ladies there may have experience with this area and have some more tips to share. Wishing you the best of luck and please let us know how things are going!

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Registered: 07-26-1999
I have a 2 1/2 and almost 5 year old that share a room and if we put them down awake, together, we get the same result. We either stagger bedtimes, with the younger one usually going to bed 30 minutes before the older one, or we put them down to sleep in separate rooms, i.e. mommy's bed, and then transfer once they are asleep. I don't like doing it that way, but there are times its just easier to do it that way then to either keep one up even longer, or put them both down together in the room. I wish I had better suggestions, but that's what works for us.