How often do you get *me* time?

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Registered: 04-08-2008
How often do you get *me* time?
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Thu, 07-28-2011 - 10:37am

I love love love the age my son is... but it can be exhausting!

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Thu, 07-28-2011 - 3:28pm
Very rarely! About once a month I make it out for a girls night out for dinner and drinks with one or two sets of girlfriends, and the occasional late night bath, but other than that, very rarely. With 3 kids, 16, 4 and 2, a full time job, and a husband who has his own business that i do the "back office" stuff for, its not often I get any time to myself.
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Registered: 03-28-2008
Fri, 07-29-2011 - 8:53am
I only have one child, so I have it "easy". I work full time and try to be totally devoted to my toddler in the evenings. At least four nights a week I fall asleep while trying to put her to bed at 8 and never get up again. :) So those days I don't get any time to myself (though let's be honest, I'm writing this post from work, so this definitely counts as "me time"!). If I can drag myself out of bed once she falls asleep, though, I in theory have a few hours to do whatever I'd like, and my DH always takes her swimming on Sundays, so I have a reliable 3-hour break once a week.

When I have time to myself and the energy to do so, I like to sit at my sewing machine or do some knitting. When I have time to myself and no energy, I play xbox and binge on ice cream. :)

I find more and more that I can accomplish most things with a toddler along for the ride, so chores don't eat away at my "me time". When I make dinner, for instance, I set her up with a mixing bowl and various ingredients and let her do her own thing. At first the mess bothered me, but she is so happy that it makes me happy too. I just toss out whatever she has created and wipe up the spills and we both can move on to better things. By involving her actively in all the crappy day-to-day stuff that needs to be done, I never feel like I have a to-do list getting out of control. And she thinks it is really exciting to wipe toothpaste splatters off the bathroom mirror, so it would be robbing her of great pleasure to do it after she falls asleep. :)
Lilypie
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Registered: 04-08-2008
Fri, 07-29-2011 - 1:34pm
I totally understand how hard it is to get me time. I think it is fantastic that you get out with your girlfriends at least once a month, though. How fun!

Community Leader
Registered: 04-08-2008
Fri, 07-29-2011 - 1:37pm
I love that you keep your daughter so involved in all the things you are doing. I have a feeling that things like allowing her to mix up her own creations and such will be memories she'll cherish all of her life. And who wants to rob your child the pleasure of being able to clean up? ;)

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Registered: 07-15-2007
Fri, 07-29-2011 - 1:54pm
Well I have a newborn and three year old so pretty much never. I did run out to do errands one night for about an hour. Dh isn't quite comfortable with both of then yet so
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Registered: 07-02-2005
Sat, 07-30-2011 - 10:24pm
Me time doesn't exist in my house, which is sad because I only have one child! I can't even shut the door to the bathroom without either my son coming and opening it to see what I'm doing, or my husband opening the door and walking in and talking to me like I'm sitting on the sofa or something.

I've been out "with friends" twice in the 3.5 years since I had my son, and, pathetically, both times were for a weatherization party (where you go learn how to properly weather-proof your home). There were cookies though...
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Registered: 04-08-2008
Sun, 07-31-2011 - 11:58pm

I'm in the minority here bc I get lots of me time. I play ice hockey 1-2 times/week. I get out for an all girls night every month. I exercise every day - usually he's buzzing around me and the baby is napping. I get 30 mins before work bc the kids are sleeping when I leave.

They go to bed later at 9-10pm but we do that on purpose so we have more time w/them. DH works 12.5 hour days so I still get almost 2 hours every evening while I wait for him. Even tho it means 6 hours sleep on work nights, I just can't go to bed until he's home and downloaded to me :)

I'd love to get DS involved in the cleaning and cooking. He makes a terrible mess but I'm thinking it's a great idea!

Dee

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Registered: 03-28-2008
Mon, 08-01-2011 - 2:26am
You know, I vividly remember "pretend cooking" as a child and I'm always happy to help my daughter do the same. Also, the only way I can get her to eat vegetables is to pretend to be upset when she steals them from my bowl. Last night we made carrot muffins and she ate multiple fistfulls of grated carrot - that alone was worth cleaning up the giant container of cinnamon she knocked off the counter.
Lilypie
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Registered: 04-08-2008
Mon, 08-01-2011 - 12:36pm
I remember that feeling well. My DH was never too sure about having young ones with him alone. I'm sure it will get better as the kiddos get older. In the meantime, enjoy your errand times. I used to love grocery shopping! LOL!

Community Leader
Registered: 04-08-2008
Mon, 08-01-2011 - 12:38pm
LOL! Sounds like the weatherization party is quite the wild time. ;)

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