I need help with my shy 3 year old

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I need help with my shy 3 year old
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Thu, 03-18-2010 - 5:37pm

Hi everyone,


I'm new to this board & I'm desperate for advice!


My DD just turned 3 which opened a whole world of classes.

Megan

Maudie's Momma

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Registered: 02-26-2008
Thu, 03-18-2010 - 6:40pm

My step son was like this...we discovered that he did better for other people than for his parents. For example, if I dropped him off at preschool, no tears, nothing...just a hug and off to class. He was fine...If DH or his mom dropped him off, it was a major scene...screaming, crying, etc...he HAD to go, we all worked, so we just left him there, but it was awful. She sounds shy, and it may be that she's a little young to go...One thing that helps my little shy ones is to "practice" what will happen at home so they feel more confident at class...

But if she persists, it may just mean you need to wait 6 months and try again....or look into a mommy and me class...


Sarah
Wife to Kevin
Step-mom to Justin (11)
Mom to twins Grace and Isabelle (3)and Boyd (21months)
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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 9:44am

You're totally right Sarah,


I had my sitter bring her to swimming lessons when I was at my whits end & she participated... on her own terms, but at least she got in the water.


I think I'm going to try to stay home for the next lesson until she's comfortable with the class.

Megan

Maudie's Momma

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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 10:47am

AMEN!!!


Sarah
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Step-mom to Justin (11)
Mom to twins Grace and Isabelle (3)and Boyd (21months)
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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 3:03pm
I totally agree-if they allow it, drop her off for class. Worked great with my LO!
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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 4:45pm

She totally flips out when she turns around & I'm

Megan

Maudie's Momma

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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 5:52pm
and part of the fun of being a mommy is to WATCH!!!

Sarah
Wife to Kevin
Step-mom to Justin (11)
Mom to twins Grace and Isabelle (3)and Boyd (21months)
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Tue, 03-23-2010 - 4:28am

Hello Megan,


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Registered: 03-23-2010
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 9:36am

Megan


Don't worry about it too much. My daughter (now almost 5) is also very shy. I put her in Ballet when she turned 3. She was excited, but refused to go inside when the classes started.


The teacher let me stay inside with her for 4 classes. sometimes she would just sit by me and not dance with the other girls. After about 4 classes, I was able to leave her inside by herself.


Give your daughter time, stay with her, if possible. don't give up, she'll eventually go off on her own. Good Luck!


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Registered: 07-09-2007
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 10:00am
Your daughter is probably really excited at first to join the program, but as the class progresses and she starts to feel pressure to follow directions and to sit still and to listen and shes probably looking at the other kids who are older and doing just fine....point is that she probably hits overload quickly and shes too young to know how to calm herself down and thus the crying and refusals to continue with the class. some kids get over stimulated quicker then others. Perhaps she needs a shorter class? fewer class mates? or perhaps just wait a little while longer until she learns to regulate herself better. My 4 year old just loves water and is content to take lessons until the expectations start to mount for her to do certain things like put her face in the water or lay on her back then its all over . The crying and screaming starts and yeah so I took her out and have decided to wait. Eventually she will want to try again.
Hope this helps. :-)
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Tue, 03-23-2010 - 3:55pm
My daughter takes ballet and we had a little girl come to her class last week that was scared. The ballet teacher invited the mother in the room so the little girl would feel more comfortable, and she did enjoy class after that. The teacher said she does it with every little girl that gets scared and after a couple a of classes the child is fine to do the dance class by themselves. Also, sometimes smaller classes are good to try.
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