I really need help with tantums.please!
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|Fri, 02-05-2010 - 5:22pm|
I have a 3.5 year old step son and a 3 year old daughter. We have dealt with our share of tantrums. But lately my step son's tantrums are out of control. This has been going on for about 6 months. His mom, my husband and I get along great and co parent and we are frustrated. I am his primary caregiver during the week and really at my wits end. I need help please!
He won't listen. He walks away or falls down and pretends he doesn't hear me or even covers his eyes. When he finally "hears" me falls down or plays dead and screams! If he doesn't get his way, or I tell him no he stomps his feet and screams and cries. Even little things like today he wanted some junk mail to look at that his sister was holding, I said and to wait the tantrum lasted 5 min.
The general way to handle this is time out. We were sending kids to beds, but he kicks the wall and falls off the bed screaming. We changed to standing in the corner. Standing means his feet are too busy to kick. :) But if he gets destructive (hitting, kicking, throwing toys) I spank his or his dad does. He used to try to hit and kick me but that stopped a few months ago because he realized it wasn't worth a spanking. I know most people say no spanking but I feel like something more than time out is needed for some things(like hitting me in the face). Spanking is generally the last resort. I have tired putting what ever he is throwing a fit for in time out, but then when it comes out he refuses to play with it. If he wants something but he is throwing a fit he all of a sudden doesn't want it. He threw something down the heat vent the other day because I told him to put it back. (fridge magnet)then he screamed for it for 15 min because he couldn't get it back and he wanted it. It isn't just me i took the kids to my mom's and her bathroom is unsafe. She has a huge mirror leaned against the wall and it is under construction. She told the kids not to go in there, as soon as she did he took off running and jumped in her tub and laughed! He wouldn't get out, she had to catch him.
He can be so sweet and playful but lately, I am just at my wits end the last few days- these temper tantrums have been like every 10 min. he isn't sick, hungry, tired anything. He get plenty of attention. But it isn't getting better it is getting worse! It seems way beyond normal to me. He is stubborn and in a power struggle constantly. I try to give lots of choices for him to feel independent. I want to be constant and firm but short of yelling at him all day or spanking him all the time I am just taped out, I feel like I have tried everything else. I want to be a good parent for him, Just don't know how. HELP ME PLEASE!!! My kids are making me crazy!
mom of Roger, Annie, and Olivia