listening in nursery school

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Registered: 02-27-2010
listening in nursery school
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Tue, 04-20-2010 - 12:42pm

my son is 3.5 and is in nursery school twice a week. his teachers keep pulling me in after school to tell me that he's not listening to them and being defiant (today it was that he threw sand on the playground after they repeatedly told him not too). i punish him when we get home after this happens (this time he lost tv and dessert for 2 days). but i feel like i'm not getting through to him and he doesn't care.

Any advise?? How do i make a 3 year old listen???

thanks!!

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Registered: 11-08-2007
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 11:19am
Consistancy is the key! Are they doing anything other than asking him NOT to throw sand? Do they have a time out system? If he's not following rules but they're not punishing him for poor behavior, then why would he change his behavior?

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Registered: 02-27-2010
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 12:06pm
they put him in time outs. but it's like he doesn't care. it's very frustrating!
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Registered: 11-08-2007
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 12:35pm

Sometimes TO just don't phase them...ugh! That makes it tough. Since I don't know what they do for time outs, and since they

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Registered: 11-08-2007
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 12:37pm
You could also do a reward system...if he doesn't get in trouble at school-he gets a prize at home. Start out on a daily basis, then weekly?

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Registered: 02-27-2010
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 3:38pm
i think the teachers gave him a few warnings then put him in TO - not sure if they brought him inside for the time out or just made him leave the playground. i told him if he's a good listener tomorrow in school he'll earn tv and dessert back. i might try the reward thing too (i've got a couple matchbox cars laying around that i haven't given him yet). thanks :)
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Registered: 11-08-2007
Thu, 04-22-2010 - 12:35pm

No problem. I was thinking last night, my DB and SIL do a reward system with their kids; any time they "catch" them doing something good ie using manners, going to bed w/o whining, etc...then they get to put a marble in a jar. If they get in trouble, depending on the severity, they take one or more marble out. When they fill the jar, they get to do something special. My nephew always chooses to go to the mall and ride the escalators! LOL They're having really good results with this.


GL and KUP!!! :)

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