Need some potty training advice...

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Need some potty training advice...
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Tue, 07-31-2012 - 2:55pm

Landon has been doing really well with potty training in the last few weeks.  He stays completely dry during the day and we only have the very rare wetting accident.  Problem is, he's only gone poop in the toilet two times.  He waits all day to go in his pullup at naptime and at bedtime.  I've tried leaving him in undies during his nap and he's stayed dry the last two days.  However, we've had no success staying dry at night.  This is fine, I don't expect him to pick it all up at once, but I am a bit frustrated trying to figure out how to get him to poop in the toilet.  The first time he did it we hopped in the car, went to the dollar store, and let him pick out a small toy.  I thought that would excite him to keep it up, but no such luck.  Any suggestions?

Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Fri, 08-03-2012 - 2:57pm
Ugh, that has to be the worst part!!
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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
Fri, 08-03-2012 - 1:01pm
Gotta love it! I just had having to clean all the bath toys after the accident happens. Blech!

Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Thu, 08-02-2012 - 12:56pm
oh yes, it got to the point with ODD that we just kept a plastic cup next to the tub to help with clean up. LOL!
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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
Thu, 08-02-2012 - 12:12pm
Thanks for the tip, Tracy. I'll be sure to keep that in mind. I know we've had many an 'accident' during bath time in the tub so it must be relaxing for sure. :smileywink:

Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Thu, 08-02-2012 - 10:30am
Hope it goes well!! Oh, and another little tip, if he does start to get constipated at all, if you can tell, a nice warm bath will help soften things up and should also relax him enough to go (either in pull ups or on the toilet). That was what we ended up doing with ODD all the time, it got to the point where it was just reflex for her to take a bath and immediately climb onto the toilet to use it.
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Registered: 04-08-2008
Wed, 08-01-2012 - 1:21pm
Hi Tracy,

Thank you so much for your reply. I read it yesterday and thought it over all evening. You make such a great point and I really don't want to start battling with constipation. He had gone nearly two days without going so I knew it was heading that way quickly. I gave him a pullup at bedtime and had to change him twice before he went to sleep. He was obviously holding it waiting for that pullup. :/ He's requested to go on the potty a few times today but has yet to go poop, but at least he's realizing the needs to that to me is a positive sign. I really like your idea of a sticker chart so I'll be making one up today. I'll let you know how it is going!

Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Tue, 07-31-2012 - 3:10pm

I won't comment on night training, that's everyone's own preference.  Madison turned 3 in June, she has been potty trained for about 6 months during the day, but not at all night trained yet, and I don't even care to try right now.  She wakes up about 1/2 the mornings dry, but I am not pushing her.  On the other hand, Emma won't day train until she was 3 1/2, did it in a matter of 3 days on her own (only becuase all her friends at daycare had moved up into the big kid room and she couldn't because she was still wearing pull ups), and then decided she wanted to wear panties to bed.  I didn't want to, but she insisted and in the last 2 years she's only had about 3 accidents.  So each kid is different IMO on that.

As for the pooping issue.  That's a hard one, and I'll tell you why, if he is holding it all day long, he can easily get constipated, and then refuse to go becuase it hurts.  Its a vicious cycle once it starts, I went through it with my oldest one for a year and it ended up having lasting effects on her.  We spent months in and out of the doctor for constipation, enemas, change in diet, etc. It was not a fun journey.  Once we got over the constipation issue alone and got her "all cleaned out" then we had to concentate on getting her to go regularly.  I wouldn't push the issue yet as it could backfire, but I would gently push him in that direction with positive reinforcement.  We did a sticker chart where at the end of the week, if she had went poop in teh potty a total of xxx times, she got a special treat.  You can either make it a surprise, you can make it something small like a trip to the dollar store or a ice cream (or something fun but nutritious they may not be allowed to have otherwise), etc. and just keep doing it til he is doing it consistently all the time, then you can build up if he starts doing it more consistently to if he does it 10 times with none in his diaper, a special outing with mom or dad, etc. and then eventually just cut it off.  That was what worked for ODD, but we had to get the fear and constipation issue under control first.  Others have told me they just put their kid in underwear all the time and don't give them a choice of pull-ups, even at nap time, and will say to "not poop on mickey mouse" or something like that.  Pooping is all about control with kids.  That is the one thing (like eating) that they themselves can completely control in their environment, so you have to get them to willingly let go of that control.

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