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Registered: 06-27-2006
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Thu, 05-06-2010 - 1:53pm
Hi everyone! I'm Dana and I have a 3 year old...Riley. He will be 4 in November. I have 2 questions for you guys:
1. Riley will not Poop train. He teetees in the potty (or outside) faithfully, but will not poo in the potty. I have even told him that if he wants to poo, to ask for a Pull-up. Nope....Poops in his undies. I know that he will eventually train, but the mess in his undies is what I'm having a problem with. LOL..Any suggestions?
2. When do they stop napping? I have such a problem getting Riley to nap. I know he still needs the sleep because when he skips his nap, by 4 he is a bear.
TIA to all!





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Registered: 11-08-2007
In reply to: krilerby
Thu, 05-06-2010 - 3:36pm

Hi, Dana. Welcome to the board! I'm Bethany and my 3YO is Mara. I also have a 4 month old at home.


I'm not going to be much help with #1 (or #2 in this case LOL-bad joke, I know!). I know that lots of LOs have a hard time poop training. I know that our CL, Amber had trouble with her LO...maybe she'll chime in here. One of my friends' little boys was tough to poop train. They finally had success with a reward system: big prize the first time, and then every time he pooped on the potty he got to put a sticker on his calendar. After so many he got another prize. My DD was a breeze...she'll do anything for an M&M! LOL :)


As for napping...do you still require him to have a "rest time"? Make sure he gets a scheduled hour where he has to be in his room, without toys, lights turned down. Maybe a few books to read, but no other toys...it might be enough to keep him from being super crabby in the evening, and if you're lucky he may "accidently" fall asleep. :) GL!!

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Registered: 06-27-2006
In reply to: krilerby
Thu, 05-06-2010 - 3:55pm
LOL about your pun. And thanks, Bethany. I have literally tried everything, I think. He loves to play Mario Cart Wii. Well, we put the Wii up (much to the older ones dismay) and told him if you poop in the potty you can play. Nothing. Now he has just forgotten about Mario. Tried M&Ms, can't keep my big ones, including DH out of them LOL. They didn't seem to have much effect on him. Oh well, he is just a stubborn little one. We'll get it one day. I've decided not to make a big deal out of it. He'll do it in his own time, I guess. Thanks so much for the response! And your children are beautiful!





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Registered: 02-26-2008
In reply to: krilerby
Thu, 05-06-2010 - 5:00pm

Hi there,

I had the same problem with one of my twins. Someone told me that if a child is constipated it will feel like they need to poop all the time, so they don't notice when they are actually pooping. So, my DD although she pooped every day her poops were like rabbit turds, so we thought, hmmm, maybe constipated. We gave her two enemas (spaced out over a week), and she's pooped on the potty ever since. I don't know if it was the "trauma" of the enema and then sitting on the potty and "grunting it out" or if it was truly a severe case of unchecked constipation, but OMG, what an amazing difference it made. (This was after a YEAR of failure to poop train)

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Registered: 08-18-2006
In reply to: krilerby
Mon, 05-10-2010 - 3:48pm

Welcome Dana!! Regarding the poop issue, I went through something similar with my DD. This is what we made as a rule in our house. Whenever she has to poop, she will ask for a diaper to go, then I made it mandatory to go to the powder room near the potty to do it. She must have done that 10times atleast. Then I would change her diaper inside the washroom..Then I would explain her that if she could do the same sitting in the potty, it will be great. One fine day I was in the kitchen, she came running and said, Mamma I did it in the potty instead of diaper..YAY..There was no looking back after that. I am sure Riley will be trained soon..You just need to constantly encourage him and tell him the need to do it in the potty. We never forced my DD, but she was eventually there and it was great for all of us.


2 - Nap time. I was told by someone, nap time for some kids who dont like to sleep needn't be a nap time..It can be a quiet time or time alone in his room (just put some books/TV) and ask him to relax. I know we cannot force someone to sleep. But it will be great if he can nap for 1 hour. Kids really need it to continue with the rest of the day!! But if he goes to bed by 7 or so and then gets up by 6/7AM, I wouldn't worry about it.


Good luck

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Registered: 06-25-2005
In reply to: krilerby
Mon, 05-10-2010 - 10:33pm

To make your ds not want to poop in his undies, you need to make it an unpleasant experience. If he poops in his undies, he gets his bottom washed off in cool water (not too cold, but not warm enough to be comfortable), and he has to help wash out his soiled undies by hand in the sink.

Your approach of encouraging ds to ask for a pull-up to poop in is a good approach. He can decide whether to poop in the toilet or a pull-up. He can be rewarded for pooping in either one. If he poops in his undies, though, he gets the unpleasant experience described above.

Another approach is to try leaving your ds naked from the waist on down for potty training. Although some children will soil the floor, most children will avoid pooping if they don't have a diaper or underpants on.

Good luck.

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Registered: 06-27-2006
In reply to: krilerby
Tue, 05-11-2010 - 3:58pm
I actually thought the same thing. He occasionally poos hard balls and it smells 'old' kwim? I have some Miralax in the cabinet, so I'm thinking about giving him that for a while. I also had heard that making a big deal out of going in the potty will make them hold it causing constipation. I'm still keeping my fingers crossed.





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Registered: 02-26-2008
In reply to: krilerby
Tue, 05-11-2010 - 4:33pm
I really recommend the "fleet" pediatric enema/suppository type things...they're kind of "traumatic" to use, but it gets "immediate" results...so basically as soon as you administer it, things get moving. so, you can have them sit on the potty, and they go in the potty (whether they want to or not...) they feel "successful" and they kind of gain some "understanding" of what's going on....I had exhausted every other avenue though before I resorted to the laxative. If she pooped in her panties, I would take her m&m reward and flush it down the toilet instead of letting her eat it...she thought it was the funniest thing she'd ever seen and wanted me to do it again. We did sticker charts, peer pressure, naked time (which resulted in poop all over floor)...lol, well, like I said, it took a YEAR...then I did the enema thing and it took 2 days...
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Registered: 05-11-2009
In reply to: krilerby
Mon, 05-24-2010 - 9:33am

Hi & Welcome!


I have a 3-yo & a 5-yo.


>>but the mess in his undies is what I'm having a problem with. LOL..Any suggestions?


I think its great you have him in undies - that's the best way.

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