New/Old and need help!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2007
New/Old and need help!!!
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Sun, 09-25-2011 - 11:01pm

I was on ivillage before with expecting club and playgroup up unitl my son was around 2.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
Mon, 09-26-2011 - 12:41pm
Hi there!

Welcome back to the boards! I'm so glad that you've found us. :)

That's a tough problem you are dealing with. I'm wondering- since the punishments aren't working (taking toys out, timeouts, etc), have you ever thought of trying the opposite approach? I know my middle guy does not respond to discipline but will do just about everything asked of him if he is rewarded. Maybe you can do a little sticker chart if/when he doesn't make a mess? I've always done a sticker chart for each time my son did something right and then he gets to trade the stickers in once he gets a certain amount of them for something (a trip to the movies, park, ice cream, etc).

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2007
Mon, 09-26-2011 - 8:08pm

That is an excellent idea.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
Tue, 09-27-2011 - 12:06pm
I know how it is! I spent many years doing the same thing and it felt like I was constantly hitting my head on a wall. Like I said, my middle guy just doesn't do well with punishments and it took someone saying "hey, maybe try positive reinforcements" before it clicked for me. It seemed like such a backwards idea to me- give them positive reinforcement for not doing something wrong (I mean, shouldn't they already be doing the right thing? :))- but some kids just learn that way!

Anyway, I hope it works. Please let us know how things are going!