Officially going bonkers!!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Officially going bonkers!!
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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 7:00pm
I have a 3.75 DS and 2 yo DD (she'll be 2 next week) and all they do is fight! I know it is probably normal sibling behavior but I am so tired of the hitting, pushing, sqwabbling over toys...argh! It starts the minute they wake up and continues all day long. Really, I know that it's probably typical, that it will only get worse before it gets better, and it will last a long time. ; ) It just gets old after a while, ya know? If you have any remedies...???

I feel like I haven't been around much lately...I had a baby (can't remember if I've told everyone here yet), then we got the flu and actually had our DD in the hospital last weekend. That was scary! We're all better now, though, and I've found that I have been reading, just not posting here.

Anyway, have a great week, everyone!

SarahAnne (SAHM to Caleb 3.75, Amber 2, Carolyn 7 weeks)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-08-2003 - 8:57pm
My two boys are 21 months apart and went through the same thing. They were best buddies as babies, until the younger one got close to two. The squabbling got worse when their baby sister arrived, but has been at a tolerable level for quite a while. Now the middle one and younger one are always at each other. Sigh.

I can't really offer you any advice. We tried everything. We tried to defend the older one's things from the younger instead of saying "Give it to him, he's just a baby." But really, since I had the two boys so close, all their toys were communal anyway. We tried separating them when they were bickering, distracting them from whatever they were fighting over, sending them to their rooms or time-out, and just plain yelling at them in frustration. Really, nothing worked and I felt like a referee for over 2 years. Basically, we just had to punish them for unacceptable behavior, encourage them when they cooperated and wait for them to outgrow it. Thankfully, they have. Sorry I can't be more helpful.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 8:14am
Congratulations on your new baby!

Did your 2 older ones fight before the baby? Maybe they are feeling jealous and fighting is the easiest way to get your attention? Have you tried ignoring their fighting and rewarding their good behavior. perhaps, if they are really going at it, go over, hug them and start them playing together, and tell them if they play nicely for say, 2 minutes, you will read a story to them or do a craft with them when the baby sleeps.

I hope you have some help to look after 3 small kids!

Good luck, Katherine

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 11:36am
Mommyhood so fun huh....bet you didn't think you would have a part-time job as a referee! LOL....my kids are almost 5 years apart and fight non stop just like you described, so I am sure it is just normal sibling fighting! So hard to deal with...especially first thing in the morning. Since I too am going through it, don't have any real advice to offer, just support and hugs!

Hang in there!

Laura SAHM to Emily/9.2, Jordan/4.4 and baby #3 due 5/25

Laura SAHMommy to:

Emily 9 1/2, Jordan 4 1/2 and Carys born 5/2/03