Potty Training is driving me nuts

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Potty Training is driving me nuts
Tue, 02-15-2011 - 9:04am

My son started showing an interest in the potty shortly before he turned 2.

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Registered: 02-22-2009
Tue, 02-15-2011 - 9:13am
Wow, I could have written your post!!! I, unfortunately, don't have any advice as I am going through the EXACT same thing as you now. Except we have 2 1/2 yr old twins, (double the FRUSTRATION). They turn 3 in July, and are doing the exact same thing your DS is doing. They confuse me sooooo much- one minute they WANT to use the potty, the next they REFUSE to. Meanwhile, they still are going in their diapers, and still don't tell me when they want to go, OR when they've gone. I ALWAYS have to iniitiate it. We've been going through this since September of last yr, when we first introduced the potty. I am at my witts end, and my Dh and I are expecting in Sept. Looks like we both would like to have them trained before our new LO's arrive. Just thought I'd comment to let you know that you are NOT alone, and I will be checking on ANY tips to try to keep my sanity!!!
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Tue, 02-15-2011 - 3:58pm
I tried potty training at 2.5 yrs.. and Logan wasn't ready. I found myself getting really frustrated and he was acting out... so I stopped and picked it up a few months later. When we tried (just after his 3rd bday) he pretty much trained over night and just got it.

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Tue, 02-15-2011 - 9:22pm

I don't know if this helps because I have a girl, but here is what I did.

During spring break last year, because I work, we let her start running around naked. And took her to the potty every time we went. She didn't like the feeling the pee run down her leg, so she would go potty on the potty. She did great and we could take her out, in a pull-up, and she did great. However, as soon as we went back to school she refused to go, and back to diapers and pull-ups returned.

On summer break I tried again. She would not do it. Got the pull-ups that you can feel the coolness when they are wet. I asked ehr why she kept peeing in her panties. She told me they were not panties, pull-ups were diapers. She we got regular underwear. This worked! She had maybe 2-3 accidents then she was fine. We still put her in a pull up to go out in public because I didnt want her to mess herself. One day we bit the bullet, and she did great. No accidents. Once we removed pull-ups and diapers she went right into potty training. She never like the potty chair, scared her. We went striaght to the toliet seat.

My best friend has a daughter a few weeks older than my own. We went through it together. She got her daughter potty trained by letting her borrow a pair of panties from my daughter. (they are great friends) She was so worried about ruining my kid's panties she didn't pee in them. Could you maybe borrow older brothers or something. I know it sounds gross but its an idea.


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Thu, 02-17-2011 - 8:26am

I happen to be lurking and I saw this so I thought I'd jump on and say something.

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Registered: 06-04-2010
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 5:06pm

We have a 2-1/2 year old.

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Wed, 03-16-2011 - 1:40pm
DS is 2 1/2 yrs and some days he totally uses the potty and some days he doesn't. Our Peds Dr told us to back off and let him decided. DS is doing a trial at preschool in a month. The teacher feels when he sees the other kids going to potty he will just do it.
When DD( now 4) was 21/2 we took her to potty every 30 mins for three days and she got it.
We tried it with DS no dice. He will do it when he is ready.
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Registered: 01-21-2011
Fri, 03-18-2011 - 7:15am
My oldest was 3 when he trained. We waited for a long time and he was completely trained in 4 days because he was old enough to "get it" that quickly. My younger son trained just after 2 because he wanted to be just like his older brother. He had accidents for months and we had to help him onto the potty constantly. It was much, much easier waiting, but I'll take it either way.

Being naked is one option. What I did for both to help them understand was use my phone and bribes. I'd set the timer on my phone for 45 minutes. When it went off, I took my son to the potty whether he needed to go or not. Most of the time he went at least a little bit. Then he'd get a piece of candy (M&M, Skittle, etc.) or a sticker on his chart. When he filled the chart he got a "big" toy. I'd reset the timer and it would go off in 45 minutes and we'd repeat the process.

Because it was the same thing over and over again and there was something in it for him, it was easy to get my boys on board with it. I'd gradually space the time out from 45 minutes to an hour then, once they REALLY wanted the sticker on the chart or the candy, they would go themselves.

I wouldn't wait for your son to say he needs to go. Help him out by taking him on a regular schedule until he understands how it all works. It will take a few days at 45 minute intervals before it all starts clicking into place most likely, but that way you can at least have a bit of structure to the training which is better for you and him.
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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 10:59am

Eventually he WILL potty train. I think that he doesn't realize that he needs to go until that instant when it's too late. He wants to but it's not easy for them to notice the signs that they have to go *especially if he's busy playing* When I potty trained my son I tossed a few cheerios in the potty