Raising my bilingual son

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Registered: 03-21-2010
Raising my bilingual son
Sun, 03-21-2010 - 10:07am

When my 3 year ols son was born i stayed at home to look after him for the first 8 months. When I had to go back to work we found a french nanny (we live in france) and he is fluent in french. He understands everything I say to him in english and sometimes responds to a question in english but most of the time he speaks french or a mix of the two languages. I stopped working about 8 months ago so he is with me every day i thought his english would have improved by now but i only notice a slight change.

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Registered: 02-26-2008
Sun, 03-21-2010 - 11:25am
I haven't, but I have a friend who is laotian, and her mom babysat him during the day (and she doesn't know english) so he used the hybrid type language at this stage as well..All I can tell you is that it sorts itself out, and you're doing the right thing. Nanny speaks french only, you speak English only...he'll be fine...

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Step-mom to Justin (11)
Mom to twins Grace and Isabelle (3)and Boyd (21months)
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Registered: 11-27-2007
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 12:29pm
We are raising our daughter to speak 3 languages (soon to be 4 when we move to Japan). It is tough because she has a much harder time expressing herself than other kids her age, but I know it will pay off. I think it definitely takes longer for multilingual children to differentiate the languages in their minds, but it will all come together eventually. It's best to avoid comparing them with other kids their age because their level of advancement will obviously be different. I agree that you should try to only speak in English to your child so he learns that he should only speak English with you and French with the Nanny.
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Registered: 03-23-2010
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 9:41am

Since you live in France, French might be more useful to your kid. But if you persistently talk to him in English, he would pick it up.

I'm from India, and we live in the US. My daughter talks only English, even though she understands our language too.

Now, when she's turning 5, I've started talking to her in our language and believe me, she has started responding to us in the same. Before she would only respond in English, but now she tries and loves to 'show off' talking in our language.

so don't lose heart, keep talking and your kid will learn English very soon.

Best Wishes

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Registered: 11-08-2007
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 11:25am

One of my best friends is married to an Italian, so she speaks only English to their DS and he speaks only Italian to him. His speaking development seemed a little slow, but they knew his comprehension for both languages was very high. Then all of a sudden his speech changed dramatically over night. Now he's doing VERY well with both languages. Give your LO some time and I'm sure it will sort itself out! GL and KUP!