Scared of the potty

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Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
Scared of the potty
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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 12:12pm

My three year old is refusing to use the potty.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
Tue, 12-13-2011 - 8:22am
Hi Heidi,

Welcome to the board! Isn't toilet training fun? We are in the midst of it too and I know how frustrating it can be.

What kind of potty is she using? Does she have a seat that fits on the regular toilet or does she have a small potty chair that sits on the floor? I'm wondering if the flushing of the toilet is what is scaring her?

I agree with you about not making a huge deal about this. It has been my experience that they will train when they are ready and no amount of pushing on our part with make it happen. I'd pull out the sticker chart and see if that helps at all and see where that takes you.

iVillage also has a Toilet Teaching & Beyond board that you may want to visit too. The CL there has a ton of great advice to share and may be able to offer you some more tips.

Toilet Teaching & Beyond- http://forums.ivillage.com/t5/Toilet-Teaching-Beyond/ct-p/iv-pspotty

Good luck to you and please let us know how things are going!

Avatar for sunset5000
Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
Tue, 12-13-2011 - 6:46pm

Thank you for welcoming me :smileyhappy:

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
Wed, 12-14-2011 - 11:22am
Hi Heidi,

Yes, we are in the process. Honestly we didn't have much luck the first go around so I've kind of put it off a bit until after the holidays. Landon just turned 3 and we just transitioned out of the crib so we are taking one thing at a time.

I have trained two other boys, however, and one thing I will recommend is just getting rid of the pull ups if you use those. I never ever had any luck training with those and found that underpants were the best. If they feel wet, it is likely that they'll want to be changed quickly and/or they'll avoid going in their pants altogether after a while.

I read a tip yesterday that I want to try with Landon. A fellow mom recommended taking a good 3 days of not leaving the house and focusing only on training. During those three days load up your child on salty foods (so they'll want to drink) and offer drinks non-stop. She swears that this method worked for both of her boys and they were trained in two days. I'm going to give it a shot!

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Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
Thu, 12-15-2011 - 8:01pm

What a great idea, I will give it a try.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
Fri, 12-16-2011 - 3:27pm
Good luck to you! Let me know how it is going- we can compare notes! I hope to see you here on the board often! :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2007
Sun, 12-18-2011 - 8:17pm
I'm sure you've tried everything you can think of, but here is all that I can suggest. 1) try a different type of potty if you haven't already (one that makes noise, a potty seat that goes on the regular toilet, a pretty pink potty seat, etc). 2) let her go to teh store and pick out what she wants as her potty training prize. Then leave it somewhere in the house where she can see it. This is how we got my son poop trained after 8 months of refusing to use the potty for #2 3) give rewards for even trying to start (m&M's maybe). it sounds like the problem is even getting her to sit, so maybe that will work. Once she's willing to use the potty and has done it a few times, then i recommend spending 2-3 days in the house with her bottoms off. they don't want to pee on themselves and they quickly learn the sensation of needing to pee. good luck

December Gumdrop 

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Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 8:34pm

Thanks, those are more great ideas!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
Mon, 01-02-2012 - 10:40am
Good luck, Heidi. My older kiddos go back to school next Monday and I'll be doing the same thing as you. Keep us posted- maybe we can offer one another some encouragement!