Sending Our Kids to 'School' Too Soon?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
Sending Our Kids to 'School' Too Soon?
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Thu, 02-21-2013 - 4:07pm

Interesting article I came by today... what do you all think?  Do you think we push schooling on our children too early by sending them to preschool and pre-K?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-rhonda-joy-edwards-vansant/preschool_b_2718737.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

Why did we ever feel we had to push the kindergarten curriculum down one or two or three years? If anything, we need to give children more time to grow and develop physically, socially, emotionally and mentally in natural ways. As a kindergarten teacher, I realized that many of the problems I saw were results of children being made to perform academic tasks too early. Their minds and bodies were not ready. Teaching skills too early can have detrimental effects because the child's brain is not developmentally ready to process these abstractions. When we work in harmony with brain growth, we are willing to give time and experiences the priority.

What has happened to childhood? The best preparation for kindergarten is a happy and fulfilling childhood. Childhood should be filled with days of playing, imagining, enjoying the company of loved ones who provide security and enjoying the natural world... sunshine, fresh air, rainbows, plants, animals, rocks, sand... and all other abundant resources. We know that one of the best measures of success in education is being in a loving home with parents. Let's start treasuring and encouraging this way of life as preparation for school. In our Head Start and Pre-K programs, let's simulate a secure, loving home environment where children can partake of the tremendous benefits. Let's rename these programs "Living a Happy Childhood."

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008

The mandate was initiated because not all parents are good parents.  Childhood isn't a big playdate for all kids.  While many of us teach our kids at home and give them great opportunities for learning, many others don't.  The best way to make up for this is to have kids those kids whose parents are not doing their job go to school.  This means dictating school for all kids.By the way, in most states, kindergarten is not required.  My daughter only went for one semester because we were in the process of moving.

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Registered: 03-07-2013

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-12-2003

I felt HUGE pressure to put my now 9 yr in preschool. "oh he needs MORE" "he'll never be ready for kindy" First time mom what did I know, so at 3 I moved from an in home day care to preschool. First MAJOR red flag was when we had to address his speach issue with them eventhough we disclosed it in his registration teacher was cluless. "oh we aren't allow to see that paperwrk" Then why on earth was I asked those types of questions about development issues...The killer was the teacher comment "oh even if we notice his speach issue I am not qualitified to say anything" HUH?!?! So I guess despite being progressive in education, my state is lacking preschool guidlines. You don't need a degree per say to work in one and without one you can't flag if a child may have an issue. Wouldn't mind but I was paying on the high side for this preschool yet they didn't require degrees. hmmm the in home day care I used while she didn't have a degree as a mom and grandmom if she saw something she let me know. Furthermore so your high school diploma doesn't give you the right to notice if you cant understand a kid but you can work on phonics with them?!? OY

So finally we to move on kindy and well because I worked full time he had been in full time child care since he was 11 weeks old. Well our town eases into kindy, so he had half days for 2 weeks and then his after school didn't start for another week after that so his first 2 days of kindy were an hour, next week he got out at 11am and then after that 2. WOW kindy is so much better then preschool until BAM he was back to full time and he lost it. Then the spend most of first few months going over what they did in preschool anyway because its not a requirment to go so they have to start from scratch so kids with preschool get bored and act out.

So now 3 years later my little guy turned 3 and I got the same comments and this time I told them all to shove it. He misses kindy by 17 days in our town so that would be 3 years of what boils down to overpriced day care; plus now I have seen what education is these days. My oldest was doing things by the end of kindy we weren't until almost 2nd grade. We didn't even get homework until 3rd or 4th and in 1st grade he was getting it nightly. I wanted my kid to be a kid as long as possible and because I work and he would be in school for so long during the day I wanted him to have that chill time. He is in same in home day care as oldest was and its like going to grandmas and kids need that too.

He turns 5 in September and I have been looking for preschool but after reviewing the cost, I am actually enrolling him in a private kindy. was up front that he has never been to preschool and even the kindy teacher said not an issue they a lot of kids who don't and her DS only does because its in same school she teaches. That school uses preschool as the old fashion get kids used to socializing and listening to authority and not so much letters and numbers. Let kids be kids. Because I won't be able to afford to keep him there after kindy to make sure he is in same school as my oldest I have to re enroll in kindy the following year so we may have same issues as oldest had with the review of info but maturity wise he will be on par with kids. Although part of me wishes if he is sucessful in kindy next year I can shove it in those critics faces that see you DON'T need 2 to 3 years of preschool!!!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008

I agree, Tracy.  One of my biggest issues with the superindendent in our area is that he's never been an educator.  How can people without the needed experience be making and passing laws?  Makes me scratch my head....

Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999

Getting really tired of IV eating my posts today...

Personally, IMO politicians got in the way.  The began passing legislation for educational standards and IMO didn't realize how much (or how far) it would trickle down.  In order to get the 3rd graders ready for the earliest forms of testing, they needed to start preparing them in 1st and 2nd grade to know the materials and be okay in the testing environment.  Point me to an actual educator up there on the hill when they starting passing these sorts of laws. 

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