She didn't finish her supper, again ...

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Registered: 04-07-2003
She didn't finish her supper, again ...
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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 6:56pm
We were just out for supper and my 3-1/2 y.o. didn't finish her cheeseburger (somewhat unusual). She'd been telling us she was hungry an hour before we ate. We gave up trying to get her to finish and as soon as we got in the car she said, "I'm hungry!" I was furious. So, since we've said, "That was your dinner, you chose not to eat it and you will have to go hungry," now what?!

So do i feed her or not before bed? She keeps coming up to me saying, "I can eat now, Mama?" Aargh!!

Please help -- thanks!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-07-2003 - 7:06pm
Very normal. My ds does this too. What I do is I always save the dinner. Even if we are out , I take whatever he didn't finish home. If he says he's hungry then I tell him to eat what he didn't. I tell him to eat so many more bites and then he can have desert. If he doesn't he gets nothing else. My ds isn't a big eater. I would tell her she can have a something good for her, but nothing sweet (no cookies, fruit snacks etc.). Offer her, cheese, apples, grapes raisens but only a little. Next time you eat a meal. Let it sit there even if she says she's done and see if she wants it later. HTH

Johnna Mom to Mason

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-08-2003 - 8:34pm
My kids play this game all the time too. We also save dinner and offer it later when they say "Can I have a snack?". Boy, does that get them mad, but tough.

If this is the first time she's done this, I would give her the benefit of the doubt and offer a healthy snack. Maybe the cheeseburger didn't taste right to her: too dry or burned or tangy cheese or whatever. With my kids, it is part of a recurring pattern, and if we've thrown away the meal, we tell them they'll have nothing until breakfast. If they really are hungry, it won't kill them to wait until morning and maybe they'll start eating what's put in front of them. (Can you tell this is a sore spot in our family?)