TEmper tantrums

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Registered: 10-03-2011
TEmper tantrums
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Tue, 11-01-2011 - 1:21pm

How do you handle temper tantrums? My sweet little 3 year old has become... something else. I never really had to deal with temper tantrums with my oldest. These aren't bad, not like you see on TV o anything, but any negative answer, even if it's just "wait a few minutes, and we'll do that" is met with tears and a screwed up face.

I HATE this. It drives me crazy. I've taken to sending her to her room when she starts, but how do you handle this sort of thing?

~CMod Heather Mom of 2, Elisabeth (5) & Rebekah (3)
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Tue, 11-01-2011 - 3:02pm
Oh, my son is knee deep in tantrum city too! It really depends on where we are when the tantrum takes place but at his age (2), I really try to refocus his attention to something else (especially if we are out in public). It is exhausting, but is usually the best way to handle the situation. Now I will say that if we are at home and he's thrown himself down over something and is acting totally irrational, I usually tell him that I'll talk to him when he is finished, and I walk out of the room. Usually he'll realize that his tantrum isn't getting him anyplace and he'll stop fairly quickly.

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Registered: 10-03-2011
Wed, 11-02-2011 - 3:16pm
The last couple of days have been really good. We've been praising her a LOT when she's good, and instituted a reward chart for good behavior, and it really seems to be working... on both of the kids!

Waiting for the other shoe to drop, though.
~CMod Heather Mom of 2, Elisabeth (5) & Rebekah (3)
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Wed, 11-02-2011 - 3:20pm
That's great! Rewards work so well for some kids. My oldest could care less about rewards but my middle guy would walk to China and back for any kind of reward! I'm glad you've found something that works. Hopefully it continues!

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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 2:17pm

If you're willing to look kind of silly you can lay down on the floor and kick and cry with her.

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Registered: 04-01-2011
Mon, 11-21-2011 - 4:39pm

I am LOL b/c this is so marvelous I can't wait to try it!!!!