weaning 2 year old

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weaning 2 year old
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Mon, 06-20-2011 - 11:44pm

I wonder if anyone has breastfed till 2 years old and how the weaning process went.

I recently weaned my 2 year old son (wanted to wean him at 1 but he was very attached and i was afraid to stop him before he was ready..then i began to think he would never be ready and i was creating a problem rather than helping. I did it at nap and bedtime mostly towards the end. He's going to bed fine but he's been very clingy and crabby...i'm wondering if anyone went through this and has any tips.

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Tue, 06-21-2011 - 11:44am
I'm trying to figure out how to wean my two-year-old right now! I never in a million years thought I would nurse so long but he is very attached. My older two boys were bottle fed and we had no problem weaning them at one. However, it is much harder to remove yourself than it is to remove a bottle. (and I'm home with him all day so he requests often!). I wish I had some excellent advice to share but it is something I'm struggling with too. I'm ready to be done and he soooo isn't.

It sounds like your guy is in need of some serious cuddles and mommy time that he may be missing from when he was nursing. Does he still ask to nurse?

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Wed, 06-22-2011 - 10:02pm
I'm in the same boat (kinda). My daughter is 18 months and still nursing! I was hoping to just make it to 6 months and here we are, still going strong. She is obsessed and always has been! She nursed all night long so she wound up in our bed so I could still sleep and wake up and care for our toddler. She is still in my bed, sucking all night long. She tries all day long but I have only given her boob to get her to nap and before bed. She gets super clingy and whatnot. I wish that I had some tips but I just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone. And, I am with her all day, so its a little difficult. You could try the BF board, but what I have learned is that they don't really give advice on how to wean...just BF longer :( Good luck, but maybe we can all help each other on this!
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Thu, 06-23-2011 - 9:17pm
Well Glory Be!! haha..I'm so happy not to be alone in this..my family is not really a "breastfeeding family" and already didn't like it that I was doing it..not that I cared but....
Anway...glad to hear its not just me. I was really afraid of just stopping and traumatizing him or causing him to just focus on that. I went to his 2 year check up and the doctor told me if I wanted to continue he wouldn't try to tell me to stop but that since i didn't want to continue I should just stop. That stopping it at nap time at first and things like that wouldn't help (which is what i was doing)
So we decided to put him in his big boy bed in with his sister (emily whose 3). We had been planning on moving him for some time so we had the bed set up. Surprisingly he didn't even care. My husband put them to bed and he didn't even cry for me. I had been a virtual prisnor at bed and naptimes since only i could breastfeed him to sleep and here I was free at last!!! :) Since that night we've had no problems putting him to bed..I can do it or my husband can. Naptime is a little trickier so we go for a walk and he falls asleep in the stroller.

He never asked to breastfeed before he would just cry and whine and start saying "see me" which I used to say to him if he was upset (do you want to come see me?) and that just meant hugs so I thought it was funny when we figured out he was now saying that ...arms outstreched ...wailing "see me..see me" ...holding him doesn't do the trick he just keeps saying it. So now it dawns on me that he's tired and probably hungry if he's saying it. I just have to keep one step ahead and make sure I address those needs before they get to a critical point.
Good luck with your journey ...three boys..wow...you have your hands full..I don't know how i would do with three..i can barely handle the two i have :) haha
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Thu, 06-23-2011 - 9:29pm
I just responded to another mom on this thread so if you want to take a look at that ...my response was more fresh :)
I'm so so so happy that it's not just me...now i know of two others in the world :) No one talks about this ....
How was your toddler with breastfeeding? I noticed that Emily (my 3 year old) was not as clingy and whiny as Walter is ..she stopped breastfeeding at 11 months on her own..just didn't want it anymore. I think it might have been because i was pregnant with walt and I hear that your milk changes so maybe it didn't taste as good. I had no problems transitioning her to a cup she never even had a bottle. Walt on the other hand was a very colicky baby..for the first 3 months they kept telling me he had colic then after some tests they realized he had GERD..acid reflux and gave him heartburn medicine and I saw a marked difference in him..like night and day. He was so much better..more calm ..less crying..
but I think because of that time I give him more of me and respond more quickly to his cries (mostly because I couldn't stand his crying I had to try to fix whatever the problem was)....i'm sure that didn't help and maybe he's a bit spoiled now.
I hope the info in my post to the other mom helps you in some way..i feel so much better and more free now..i used to be unable to go anywhere at night so I could put him to bed..now i feel like I can get out in the world again. I actually went grocery shopping the other night by myself and didn't get home till after 8pm..both kids were sleeping..it was wonderful!
I wish you luck.....one thing i always said to myself is that it wouldn't last forever..that no matter what there was a end date even if i didn't know what that was. Eventually he would stop or I would stop it...I've never heard of a teenager having to go home at lunch to breastfeed...haha :)
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Thu, 06-23-2011 - 9:44pm
It feels so good to hear other mom's going through this. It's pretty funny b/c I also feel like a prisoner in my bed come 8 at night...it is miserable sometimes. And like you, I don't really have anyone in my family that supports the whole BF thing, including Dh. My older daughter was born at 36 weeks, and had jaundice so they made me supplement and she prefered the formula, so she never really nursed, except for maybe a couple of weeks off and on. i'm finding a lot of similarities between babies who love to nurse, and colic seems to be one of them. Stella had colic and silent reflux, and was super fussy and high needs. We also had to give her the meds and she was immediately better. It is so hard being able to do anything b/c I feel like i have to be home at 8 or so. We have a toddler bed in our room and she refuses to sleep in it. We have even tried in bed with her big sis, and that was a no go. We went all day without any boob besides at naptime and bedtime and she struggled! When i finally gave it to her, she fell asleep and that was at 6:00! She has never fallen asleep that early and is still asleep.

it was great to read your post, and know we aren't alone in this bf'ing battle!
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Fri, 06-24-2011 - 1:06pm
You are SO not alone! My family isn't a breastfeeding family either. Meaning, I'm the only one that has ever nursed and to do it this long would just shock them! I'm actually a little concerned because we are going camping with my parents in a few weeks. I can only imagine the look on their face when Landon asks for "mommy milk". Eeeek!

It sounds like you are doing a fabulous job reading his cues and anticipating what he needs. I'm sure weaning will go well for you. The fact that you can put him to bed with no problem is awesome!

I hope it continues to be as easy but please come here and vent if needed! I know exactly how you feel! :)

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Fri, 06-24-2011 - 1:07pm
I was just thinking about this when responding to your other post... why don't we talk about this more? I think, in my case anyway, that I don't want to be judged. So many people think it is weird that we have breastfed this long and I don't want to be considered gross or weird. Thing is, it really has been so natural. I'm just ready to be done!

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Fri, 06-24-2011 - 1:09pm
HUGS, Brandi! It sounds like you a have a big nurser on your hands! I don't know if I could have done it with a baby wanting to nurse all night long. You are awesome!

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Wed, 06-29-2011 - 6:29am

I'm in almost the same place, I weaned my daughter at 23 months and thought everything was suspiciously easy...she didn't seem terribly fussed about it, of course at bedtime we had a battle, but during the day she was fine.

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Wed, 06-29-2011 - 11:32am
I'm so glad you've shared with us! It sounds so easy to just wean and be done with it but, as we've all shared, that isn't so easy to do!

I can understand the embarrassment! My son with ask for "mommy milk" no matter where we are. He's big for his age too so the looks I get are just fantastic. ;)

Keep us posted on how things go with the second round of weaning! If you come by any fantastic tips, let us know! We aren't slowing down here at all... Landon nursed 3 times yesterday. Sigh....

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