What is going on with my DD??? (m)

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What is going on with my DD??? (m)
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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 3:26pm
Lately, my 2.5 yo DD has found it necessary to throw a MAJOR fit about every little thing! She is constantly whining and screaming if she doesn't get her way. In addition to this problem, she has all of a sudden lost ALL interest in her potty training. She was doing so well for so long, and now she just refuses to even sit on the potty and try. I don't know what to do!! I'm really at my wit's end with this potty training business already. I'm SICK and TIRED of spending so much money on these pull-ups. I thought she'd definitely be potty trained by now...all the other kids her age (in our family) were p-trained by now...what am I doing wrong??? Sorry to vent so much, but this is getting so frustrating. TIA for any help or suggestions!!

Becky

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 3:33pm
Wow sounds like you are going through some tough times with your DD.

Some ideas: First on the tanturms I think it is fairly normal for kids of this age to do this..they are expressing new emotions and testing boundaries. I have found with my kids that the quickest way to end this sort of behavior is to be firm and consistent. It does not really matter what form of disipline you use as long as you are firm and consistent. It is also a good time to teach her other ways to express her anger and that it is not acceptable to take out her anger on others.

On the potty training... It sounds like you are using pullups? All the time? I would try using regular underwear and the pullups/diapers only during nap and bed times. She should quickly change her tune when she feels the yucky wetness that you can only get when wearing real underwear.

HTH

Good Luck!!

~Dawn~

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 5:01pm
Thanks for your suggestions. I may try putting her in her underwear more often. That might help. Thanks again :)

Becky

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 5:17pm
GET RID OF THE PULLUPS.......

I think they are a waste of money. They are just like a diaper and all too often this stops the potty training b/c the child starts to remember how "easy" it was to just pee in their diaper. If you put her in normal panties...and she has an accident...she gets the immediate feeling of how nasty it feels to pee in her pants--have it running down her leg, etc..... Now of course, there are the few children who just don't care, LOL!!! Anyway, I say go right to the panties.

FYI: We did however use pull-ups for nighttime. That way if they did have an accident it wasn't a big deal(lets face it, no one likes to change bed sheets in teh middle of the night) and if they did get up to go potty then it was easy for them to go!

My .02!!!!

Hang in there mom, it gets easier!

Laura

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Emily 9 1/2, Jordan 4 1/2 and Carys born 5/2/03

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 5:36pm
Getting rid of the pull-ups seems to be the general consensus here :) SO, I guess I'll give it a try!! I'm going to have to buy her more underwear first...I'm sure she'll have quite a few accidents in the beginning. So, you're having a baby in May? How exciting for you!! We're planning to get pregnant in the fall of this year. I can't wait!!

I'll keep you posted on my potty training adventures!!

Becky

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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 3:47am
from a mother who has your ''type'' of child.

The only problem that i DIDNT have was the potty training. She did that really quickly by herself before she was 2 and never went back.

HOwever she fights me on every single thing and whines most of the day so I know how frustrated you are in that sense!

I have a friend who had the same potty issues as you. Let me just say that each child goes at his or her own pace. Dont worry about what other children in your family or friends did.

She may be going through the '' I am in control'' phase, so if I were you I would leave the potty out, ask her on occasion if she has to go- so she doesnt forget about it completely and when she dirties her diaper remind her where she should be going.

I know this is easy for me to say having a child who has passed the milestone but I also know that in everything else, the more I push the more disagreeable she gets.

I dont know if you have tried just letting her walk around in panties till she gets the message? She will have a few gross accidents but maybe she will try to stop those on her own?

As for the fighting , I usually give my dd choices about things and SOMETIMES it works unless she regrets the choice she made and has a fit 2 minutes later :)). Dont give in and eventually she will realise that she doesnt get her way all the time. This is advice I got, I hope it works soon!


Good luck, hang in there! I know how much you have to fight each day.

Anna

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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 12:26pm
Yes, please do let us know how it is going. We love to celebrate that milestone!

Stop using the pullups except for at night will probably speed her progress along. So many of my friends' children who were resistant to potty training while using pullups all said something along the lines of "But Mom, they are just like diapers." when asked why they keep wetting them. Getting that nasty wet feeling seems to be what it took to finish the process.

Good luck,

Dawn