Yikes! Please help...

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Registered: 09-23-2004
Yikes! Please help...
Sun, 01-27-2013 - 9:51pm

I'm a stay-at-home-mom to a 4 1/2 year old and a 2 year old, both girls. From birth, we co-slept with my older daughter. When she was born, I didn't want her to feel displaced, so I continued to co-sleep with her. I couldn't nurse my 2 year old for very long (technical difficulties), so I co-slept with my older daughter, and my husband co-slept with my younger daughter in the room next door. (We sleep in a Queen, they sleep in a Cal King.)

The upshot is that my 2 year old loves me, but is CRAZY about dad. (BTW, my older daughter is the opposite: loves dad but is CRAZY about me.)

I take my 2 year old to Mommy & Me preschool for 2 hours, 2 days a week. I also take her to a My Gym class on Saturday mornings. I know she loves and trusts me.

But I want things to be more equal. I want my 2 year old to love me more than she does now, I guess I'm saying (of course, not at the expense of her relationship with her wonderful dad). Please, some advice? We've all tried sleeping together, and it's tough and doesn't make for a good night's sleep for any of us. Is this the best way to go?

Thank you.