Begin IVF with donor eggs? Any regrets?

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Registered: 09-07-2009
Begin IVF with donor eggs? Any regrets?
Mon, 09-07-2009 - 12:43pm

Hi there I'm new - 40 years old TTC for a while, no luck with several IUI's.

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Registered: 11-29-2005
Mon, 09-07-2009 - 8:42pm

We are skipping IVF w/ my eggs due to finances.


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Registered: 03-28-2003
Tue, 09-08-2009 - 11:33am

Hi and welcome. We tried 7 IUIs, then 2 cycles w/ my own eggs first at 40 and then at 42--- had a great response with over 15 mature follies retrieved both times. Great fertilization but they didn't stick. It was something that i had to do for me but looking back, I wish I had done less IUIs and one less IVF which would have saved us about 20K instead of the 35K+ we used because I HAD to have my own genetic child. I was given a 10-20% chance w/ my own eggs and a 60-70% chance w/ DE.

I too went the Shady Grove route and it took me 4 tries w/ DE just to get one to stick. I will be giving birth to my baby in December at 45.5 years old PLUS I have 2 frozen totsicles. Thank God for their program of 6 tries for one fee w/ a money back guarantee if you do not take home a live baby.

My regret is not putting my own ego aside and moving to DE more quickly. This baby I am carrying is mine---hands down. I wish I had the hindsight before that I have now.

You have to do what's comfortable for you. You may be blessed the first time around (I hope) because pregnancy w/ your own eggs can and does happen to women in their 40s. Have they done an antral follicle count or checked your FSH? Is there any reason NOT to think your eggs would work? If not then go for it....however with your finances as they are, if the first try w/ your own eggs doesn't work, then you might consider moving on to DE.

Keep us posted and good luck !!!

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Registered: 09-07-2009
Tue, 09-08-2009 - 12:29pm

Thank you both SO MUCH for your comments!

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Registered: 10-21-2008
Tue, 09-08-2009 - 9:06pm

After miscarrying my first, natural pregnancy at age 44 -- and learning that the odds of conceiving with my own eggs were about 2 percent versus 50 percent with donor eggs -- my husband and I decided to cut to the chase and do IVF with a donor. I became PG on my very first attempt with a single embryo transfer (we froze the other two), and my beautiful baby girl is now a year old.

Any regrets? Heck, no!

We'll be trying for #2 with one of the totsicles next month.

Good luck to you!


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Registered: 03-02-2007
Thu, 09-10-2009 - 12:41am

My story is very similar to Layla's.