Consider DE - Shared Risk ????

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Consider DE - Shared Risk ????
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Sat, 08-21-2010 - 9:12am

Hi ladies,


A little history -


Had tubes tied after last baby was born 4 years ago -

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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 7:10pm

I'm trying to remember ... I matched in late August last year.

 


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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 7:26pm

I do have to admit they provide a lot of detailed information.

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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 8:16pm
I can't remember how many donors were in the database when I looked in January - it was not a massive list.

Isabel
Mom to Sebastian Robert after 3+ years of infertility

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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 1:31pm
Hi Kristi
I am in the midst of the DE program @ SG. I chose my donor in May. The biggest complaint I have is the paltriness of the database, it goes to show how popular the program is. To spare you more disappointment, I will tell you now that the women you are looking at are in all (1:1, 1:2 & 1:3) the programs, and the number for the shared (1:3) program are even fewer, there were literally 6 non-african americans when I got my permanent code, all blond and short (of which I am neither)
After a couple of weeks, a woman w/ dark hair/eyes popped up, and I selected her as soon as possible. She was not my ideal, but we liked her profile, and she has similar features to my sister. I am hopeful that the one frozen embie we have left over will take, so I won't have to go through the selection process again. It was close to 12 weeks from selection to transfer.
Best of Luck
Susan
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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 2:17pm

Susan,


Oh my, I was hoping it would go quicker than that.

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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 4:28pm
Yes, sorry to say, Apr – Aug. All of our paperwork/pre-reqs were done in April/early May. I selected my donor May 20, the match was complete on June 8, and we transferred on Aug 5, we got BFN Aug 17, and we’re going again w/ the remaining frozen embie late Sept/early Oct. I am on the first of 6 allowed cycles, though, emotionally, I doubt I can do more than 2-3. The DE fee is nearly identical to our adoption fee, so if we go through this to our exhaustion point, we can still use that money for international adoption, it will just be a longer wait. I expanded my criteria to include anyone w/ dark hair/eyes, and over 5’4, it took a couple of weeks for that person to come up, I just had to be patient (which was really difficult, as I am sure you are, we were antsy to get started) They seem to have a good success rate, 70% for this procedure, unfortunately, like all the other treatment options we have been through, we found ourselves on the losing side of the odds, despite our RE telling us everything looked perfect…
I am sure you will find a great donor, you just have to be comfortable w. them, after all this is your baby we are talking about. I liked my donor because she was already a mom, and her application outlined her generosity and good-nature. After going through this once, it is amazing to me everything she went through for us, it is a gift beyond comparison.
-Susan
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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 4:53pm

Susan,


I am still staggered at the cost $$$$ and have not received the different programs based on finances from the coordinator.

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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 5:51pm

Kristi
Here are the costs

$29K All-inclusive for 1:3 program ($29 returned if not successful)
$37K All-inclusive for the 1:2 program ($37 returned if not successful)
$21.5 K + costs ($6200 per donor) 1:2 Program ($21.5 returned if not successful)
$18.6 + costs ($6200 per donor) 1:3 Program ($21.3 returned if not successful)

It is a lot of money, but like I said, it is nearly identical to adoption fees for us. We were a little older when we got married, I was 36, but I never thought it would be this long or expensive a journey, 3. 5 years, and so far tens of thousands of $'s.

I am a little leery of embryo adoption, because it seems it is the same amount of hoops that we go through for regular adoption, it was really too much for me.

We actually have an embryo left over, so if it does not work, yes, it's back to the drawing board and the 3 month wait.
Thanks for the good wishes
Susan

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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 6:02pm

Thanks so much for the information.

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Mon, 09-13-2010 - 10:27am

As a professional in this field I am happy to share that not only does Shady Grove run a fine donor egg program but their shared-risk program is a safe and appropriate cost management option for those who want to economically plan for a subsequent cycle should it become necessary. Generally speaking, "shared-risks" are an insurance policy of sorts, you pay up-front in consideration of the potential that you will need to do more than one cycle. It is not right for everyone and you will need to decide if, personally, this cost-management option makes sense for you but I did want to post to convey that both Shady Grove and their shared-risk program are regarded, by professionals in this field, quite highly!



Sincerest best wishes for donor egg success!!



Warm regards, Amy



Amy Demma, Esq