Day 5 (blastocyst) transfer on Friday

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Day 5 (blastocyst) transfer on Friday
Tue, 11-21-2006 - 11:24pm

So, we are going for a day 5 transfer. I'm a little dissapointed because now I have to wait another 2 days! :) They are watching 6 embryos. The coordinator gave me the grades but I can't remember what they were, you'd think I'd pay more attention, write this stuff down. Basically 4 were of the best grade and 2 were right behind them. I remember her saying that annother one wasn't going anywhere, I can't remember if she said anything about the rest, I'll just assume they didn't fertilize. I'll get all the facts and write them down this time.

I gave my mom an update a couple of hours ago and she said something that made me feel sad, it was a physical reaction. I was telling her how weird it felt that my baby was 15 miles away, growing in a laboratory and here I am at home, waiting for it. She said "POTENTIAL baby" felt like someone threw a wet, moldy, blanket over me. "I mean", she said "I really want this for you, I don't want you to be hurt if this doesn't work". Okay, I know she didn't mean it how I took it. I didn't even take it wrong, I know what she meant. It's that I ONLY need positive thoughts right now. I'm a bit negative in nature, I can always find the downside of things, I don't need anyone's help to point them out to me. I know this isn't guaranteed, I have to assume it's going to work and deal with it if it doesn't. I have an advantage as I have a beautiful son, we want this baby badly, but we are lucky that we are already parents. I'm a little suprised at how that comment made me feel and my mom would be devastated if she knew.

Anyway, that's it for now. I hope I'm not being annoying by posting about myself so much!


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Registered: 09-05-2006
Wed, 11-22-2006 - 8:32pm

Post away, this is an emotional, although a good one, but very emotional you need to get it out.

I have the same type of mother, loves me to pieces, would do anything for me but let's just say you would love to play poker with her.

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Thu, 11-23-2006 - 11:29am

Good luck tomorrow!

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Thu, 11-23-2006 - 11:31am
Good luck :) Sorry your mom had to make such a crappy comment. I hope all goes well.
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Registered: 01-22-2006
Fri, 11-24-2006 - 12:10pm
sorry you have to wait... but i understand that success rates are much higher with blastocyte transfers... and it's great they think your embryos are strong enough to make it to five days.
mothers. yes. they always say the wrong things. she's just trying to soften the blow... just in case (my problem was opposite. my sister in law kept on saying, this time in two weeks you might be pregnant... and i kept on saying no no no no you have to be pessimistic so I'm not too distressed when (not if!) it doesn't work).
Good Luck!
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Registered: 08-03-2005
Fri, 11-24-2006 - 12:35pm

hi there,

i have been thinking about you, and i'm sorry i missed the retrieval post.

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Registered: 11-24-2006
Fri, 11-24-2006 - 10:26pm
I know unfortunately from experience not to take other people's reactions to heart or personally and that inclueds family members. Remember that the majority of the population has not been through what you have to have a family. They cannot possbily realize what you are going through even if you took the time to explain it. Your mom loves you and in the only way she knows she is trying to support you. For some people, it is easier to compartmentalize and say "potential" than to allow themselves to get emotionally involved or attached. It doesn't mean they love you less. I truely wish you the best of luck. My prayers are with you and your family.


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