Hi Ladies -
I'm new here coming over from the
I wanted to chime in because DH and I are going through something very similar. We have a beautiful (almost) 2 year old from a donor embryo cycle. I honestly don't think we could have "made" one any better. We are now getting ready to start our next cycle and have just recently chosen our donor embryos. When we looked at the list, we too had major hang-ups about characteristics. This one was too tall, or had the wrong color hair, or they were perfect but didn't have great quality embryos. In the end we decided that we were tired of waiting and ready to start the process. We are never going to find the "perfect" embryos but when it comes down to it, I really don't care what color hair our child has. Of course we want to share similar characteristics, but our goal is a
Hi Lauren -
Thanks for your response - I was just going to comment on your post to see what you all decided... DH and I are heading out of town this weekend, so we'll have time to talk about it. I am okay with not 100% perfect match because that's just not be realistic and I just want my baby. Funny how our initial "sticking" points were totally different - mine was the hair and the height, his was she was class presedent which he equates to a "bookworm/nerd" type (not that there is anything wrong with that)
Some time away to talk should definitely help. DH and I started out by eliminating the ones that had a characteristic that was completely non-negotiable for us, then moved on to the details. My DH and I had the exact same sticking points are you, mine was hair his was height!
We just made it to the top of the list yesterday and selected our donor embryos. The donor couple has most of the physical traits that we are looking for and their health histories were pretty benign. The embryos are actually a result of a donor egg cycle so they are great quality. The hair, ethnicity and height are a good match for DH and I, but there were a few things that we had to compromise on. The donor male has grey eyes and my DH has hazel, but the female has brown eyes like me, so odds are brown will win out since it is dominant.
I wanted our donor to be shorter.. hubby is 6'7 and i am 5'5 and i did want both hubby and the child drawrfing me.
----"Never give up on something that you can't stop thinking about every second of every day."----
Lauren - YEY for picking your embryo's.
Thanks, I'm so excited and nervous at the same time. Even though an FET is easier than a fresh cycle, I still dread the process. I'm exhausted just thinking about all the energy and emotion that's coming my way. I hope to get my calender early next week so I will know my transfer date for sure, but I'm estimating either the 3rd or 4th week in June. Fingers crossed!