Disclosing

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Disclosing
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Sat, 06-16-2007 - 10:30pm

Real life story unfolding as I post.....


Dh has a son and daughter from a prior marriage.

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Sat, 06-16-2007 - 11:09pm
I'm so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts. I hope that you all get through this and that your DH's relationship with his children heal.

 

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Sun, 06-17-2007 - 5:28pm

Oh, no, huge (((((hugs))))) to everyone...

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Mon, 06-18-2007 - 12:32pm

< I know that this situation is a bit different, but it still about disclosure. >

Yes, this situation you are talking about is very different from DE/DS. In this situation, the father did not "plan" to have the son, he more or less adopted him when he was an infant, right?

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Mon, 06-18-2007 - 7:39pm
Thanks for your kind words.
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jhscalis@wisc.edu

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Mon, 06-18-2007 - 7:41pm

Belinda,


Thanks for your kind words.

jhscalis@wisc.edu

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Mon, 06-18-2007 - 7:46pm

It sounds as if ai offended you in my post.

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Tue, 06-19-2007 - 4:56pm
In my situation, we can't disclose to our child about DE, because I have at least two family members who would definitely not accept ANY child that did not have their genetics. Which means, they also would not accept an adopted child. The rejection would be blatant and immediate. They would also seek to cause problems for me and my family over that. I have thought about it long and hard, and wondered if I should remain childless because of this. But that is just something I can't accept.
Everyone's situation is different. There are some very valid reasons why some people won't disclose.
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Tue, 06-19-2007 - 6:43pm

I totally agree with you.

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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 2:58pm
well, that's great that the son is now accepting things. It just goes to show that its not the end of the world, finding out one has a different genetic identity.
I think if our child ever does find out, it will be a shock of course. But I think eventually he could forgive us. It is possible he might not even want to know who his donor was. I've known adopted kids who had no interest in finding their biological parents.
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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 3:05pm

My heart goes out to you and your DH and to your step kids.

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