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|Thu, 06-19-2014 - 10:05am|
Hello everyone! It has been a long time since I've been to this board. It took me a few minutes but I was able to remember my login.
A little history about me. I have two donor conceived children, a daughter (16) and a son (13), both by the same donor. I am married now for 32 years. The kids have been the best thing we ever did. I have no regrets.
Well it's amazing how fast the years go by and during those years we had always planned to tell the kids how they were conceived, but never did. So now we are discussing that we need to do this but not sure how and when. My sister in law is the only one who knows. We have been doing some research on it and I worry after hearing how olders kids have so much trouble with it.
An issue I am concerned with is my daughter has been seening a psychologist for the past few months because she has social anxiety and it escalated this past school year. The other issue I have is my son has Asperger's and has low self-esteem and there are times where he thinks his dad doesn't like him. I worry that they will not be able to handle it. I talked with her psychologist the other day and she said that it's good my daughter is seeing her as it will help her work through it. I am wondering if I should get my son scheduled also.
Is there anyone here who waited to tell their kids? Anyone who is not going to tell their kids? Any recommendations on how to handle it?
Thanks so much!