ED update

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ED update
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Wed, 01-24-2007 - 7:47pm

I am new to the board and just trying to find the right spot to receive information. I have just finished with my second ultrasound yesterday. Our ED had been chosen and she started stims this week. So far all has gone great. Although I am taking alot of hormone pills and still taking Lupron shots each night - it really hasn't been an issue. I am getting more excited every day. My DH is also excited for the ET day which should be around 2/3 or 2/5.

I would like to hear from all of you that have been through this and how many eggs were transferred and if you became pregnant on the first try, etc.

This is my second marriage. I have two grown children but had my tubes tied and am too old to use my own eggs. I wanted so much to do this for my DH and am hoping and praying that it works for us.

Barb

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In reply to: barbstantonaz
Thu, 01-25-2007 - 8:06am

Welcome!

jhscalis@wisc.edu

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In reply to: barbstantonaz
Fri, 01-26-2007 - 9:23pm

Barb,

I am not too far behind you. We have ER approx. 2/15 and ET approx. 2/20. Right now I taking Lupron shots in the morning and will start to use an estrogen patch on Sunday.

My RE says that our chances of becoming pregnant using the egg of an early 20 something donor could be 70-80%. We are hoping we get pregnant with the first try and we already know we only want to transfer the very best ONE back.

Good Luck with everything!

Jody

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In reply to: barbstantonaz
Fri, 01-26-2007 - 9:36pm

When we were in the process of picking a donor, the doctor said that it had to be someonoe that was 25 or younger and had been a previous donor and had resulted in a positive pregnancy. Those criteria are supposed to increase the probability of a positive result. I hope that is correct.

I am currently on 6mg per day of estrogen. On Tuesday, I have my 3rd Ultrasound and depending upon the results of that should start of progesterin next. It is all very exciting and sort of amazing and unbelievable.

Have you ever gone through this before?

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In reply to: barbstantonaz
Sat, 01-27-2007 - 1:23am

how exciting!

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Sat, 01-27-2007 - 11:12am

I have not met our donor although I know alot about her from the service we are using. I have seen photos, etc. But I only know her first name.

As far the mock transfer, they mentioned that but I am not sure what it is. They said they may do that a few days before the ER but they would let me know.

We are at about a week to go and it doesn't seem possible...I will keep you posted on everything. Right now the only thing that I am feeling is alot of pressure in my overies. I am sure that is because of all the medication.

b

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In reply to: barbstantonaz
Sat, 01-27-2007 - 4:03pm

Barb,

I did IVF using my own eggs about a year ago and sadly we were not successful. I was 41 and since I had a son who was concieved naturally (who at that time was only 1 1/2), I thought it was a sure thing that IVF would work. It took me several months to come to grips with the fact that it didn't,and then awhile to get DH on board with DE, and then 6 months to get us to this point. I am gald we are here but I am also a bit nervous as well!

It is all very exciting though! Our donor should start her stims on February 3rd and my first lining check is scheduled for 2/8. I start my estrogen patches tomorrow. I don't miss all the needles from IVF, however I am not looking forward to the PIO. Even though I know it isn't all that bad, I still dread it!

Are you planning on doing anything special for your donor, as in get her a card or flowers or anything for the day of retrieval? I have been thinking about it but haven't decided yet. What do you think?

Please keep me posted on how everything goes. I will be rooting you on!

Jody

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Sat, 01-27-2007 - 8:19pm

Jody,

As far as the PIO - my doctor perscribed progesterine suppositories. I have read alot about the shot and it scares me...so I hope this works and I don't have to go that route.

I am in the process of writing the donor a letter and now that you mention it, I probably should buy her something...I just don't know what. Any ideas?

I have two older children - 23 and 21. I just got remarried in July and my husband has never been married before. I had my tubes tied when I was 35 because my ex-husband didn't want anymore kids and I didn't have any idea that the marriage would end. So, here I am today married to man that wants kids more than anything and I am too old to try with my own eggs. So that is why we are going the donor route. There is nothing I want more than to have a baby for him - so I so hope that this works. I am 52 and this seems unbelievable to me but you never know. If it is meant to me it will be.

I went to the website to check the results of the clinic that I am using and in the last year they had 117 donor egg recipients and 46% resulted in live births. I guess that means we have about a 50/50 chance.

I am glad you have a similar situation as me...it makes it so much easier when you have someone to talk to that is going to the same thing.

b

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Sun, 01-28-2007 - 9:48pm

Barb,

I just looked up the results from the clinic we are going to. It shows 62% for IVF w/DE. It also shows 50% for frozen transfer from DE. We only want to transfer one embryo back because we would prefer not to have multiples at this point so if we have to do FET I guess 50% is better than nothing.

I think that I may give flowers to the donor. At this point I haven't thought of anything that would be appropriate that she could keep since we don't know her outside of her profile. Writing a letter is nice, I think maybe I will do that too.

Please keep me posted with what is going on in your cycle. I think you are about 2 weeks ahead of me. When is ER for the donor? Let me know her progress so I can cheer you on. I think the frustrating thing for me is sitting on the sidelines just waiting for the info from the doctor's office. I have no control here and I am a person who likes some type of control.

One last thing, where are you located? I live in Texas but have only been here 8 years.

Good Luck with everything! Sending you lots of baby dust!

Jody

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Sun, 01-28-2007 - 10:21pm

Jody,

I am in Arizona, but chose a clinic in California because of its success rate. I have lived here for the last 30 years. I was raised in rural Illinois and came here for college and the sun and then never left.

The ER is scheduled for 2/2. I have my third ultrasound on Tuesday and I assume based on the outcome of that and where she is in her cycle, if in fact, we are still on schedule. If that is the case, my DH flies over to CA on the same day, then we wait 3 - 5 days for the ET. I have no idea what that is like - maybe you can enlighten me. I heard something about a full bladder and then laying still for 48 hours.

I was thinking about a gift for the donor and I had a thought...a Swaroski crystal angel or heart. But, I am going to call the donor agency tomorrow and see if they can give me some other ideas.

Regarding the number of eggs we are going to transfer - I am leaving that up to the doctor. I don't mind twins if that happens. I just want to make sure it comes out positive...everyday that we get closer by hopes get higher and I get more excited and can't wait.

Today has not been an easy day for me - I am really on an "hormone-a-coaster" ride. My moods are all over the place but based on how much estrogen I am on, I guess that makes sense.

Looking forward to your thoughts.

Barb

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In reply to: barbstantonaz
Mon, 01-29-2007 - 10:00pm

Barb,

Your clinic should be able to tell you what the progress of the donor is. At this point she would have had several appointments to check the development of her follicles. If they haven't notified you of her progress I would call and enquire. You have every right to know what's going on. I believe my office said they would contact me the days she has her appointments to keep me posted on her progress.

What you really want to know now is how many follicles does she have and what are they measuring. I believe if my memory serves me correctly the RE likes to see a couple of them measuring around 18 before they will let her take the trigger shot to bring on ovulation. Of course the goal isn't always more eggs but good quality eggs close to maturity.

Usually they retrieve more eggs than are mature, and then usually not all of those eggs fertilize. I have heard the rule of thumb is to shoot for 50%. Are you doing ISCI or natural fertilization? Our clinic calls the day or retrieval and tells us how many were fertilized. Then we got a call I think the next day on their status when they told us how many cells they were. When we did IVF last time we had a day 3 transfer so when we went in that day they gave us a picture of the 3 best ones and gave us their status at that time.

When we went for transfer I was told to arrive an hour before with a full bladder. I think that I was to drink a bottle of water on the way there. They gave me valium to relax me after I got there. When they took me in my DH was able to go with me, they used an ultrasound machine, checked my lining one more time and then the doctor put them in via a catheter. We watched for the "swoosh" as he shot them in. I had to lay flat for another hour, actually I think my head was lower than my feet. The worst part was I had to go to the bathroom really bad and I held it so I didn't have to use the bedpan. That part was torture.

I just remembered that my doctor would not let me use any deoderant, hairspray, powder or perfume the day of transfer. He said the embryos are sensitive and they want no 'smells'. No cologne for DH either.

I went home and was told to lay flat for 24 hours (no more than a 30% incline) and then rest and take it easy for the next 24 hours. I went back to see the RE once for a progesterone check a few days later and then again for my beta. The 2 week wait is the hardest. You don't think it will psych you out at first but then if you are like me you will became obsessed with how slow time moves when you want it to move faster.

Sorry this is such a book but I wanted to share two more things. I am doing acupuncture this time and when I saw my acupuncturist this past week she told me to eat lots of high alkaline (spelling?)foods. I have to research that a little to know which foods are high in alkaline but she said that would be good for the embryos.

She also told me that after transfer I want to make sure not to push too hard when going to the bathroom. She said to sip water and not wait too long to go. Her reason is that in the beginning the embryo is just laying on top of the lining. It needs the lining to survive but it takes a little bit for it to really burrow down deep and get attached. She said to be careful pushing when in the bathroom so you don't push it back out. I hadn't heard about that before but I will certainly be careful about it.

I would be interested to hear what the donor agency suggests for a gift. I like the crystal idea.

Hang on to that hormonal roller-coaster. I know exactly what you are going through. I remember having a comlpete meltdown one morning last time so I am sure I will be due for the same thing here in a few days.

Good luck with your ultrasound tomorrow. I hope they see 3 different levels just like they like it. Keep me posted!

Jody

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