How did you choose between donor egg & d embryo?

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How did you choose between donor egg & d embryo?
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Sat, 06-25-2011 - 1:29pm

I'm wondering how you decided between using donor eggs and donor embryos?

I'm just starting thinking about this after my RE told us that my eggs are very poor quality. DH is good to go, but we are looking into both options. I'm just really curious about the differences in using donor eggs vs. donor embryos and why you might choose one over the other. Also wondering if there is a big difference in cost?

Thanks so much for any advice you might have!

 

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Sat, 06-25-2011 - 8:27pm
Donor egg is definitely more expensive bc you are paying for a cycle of ivf, or splitting the cost if you do a shared cycle, and also paying the costs for donor screening and compensation. But the advantages are you can use your partner's sperm, or if you also need donor sperm, then you can independently choose your egg donor and sperm donor to match your desired criteria.

Donor embryos are generally left over from another couple's cycle, when they don't need them for further children. The advantage is you know exactly what you're getting (number, quality) and the y're ready to go for a fet when you are (no synchronization of cycles). But you're also limited to what's out there, and not all clinics do donor embryo.

 


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Sat, 06-25-2011 - 8:36pm
Ack, dd is doing acrobatics while nursing and I accidentally hit post.

When we were starting the process, donor embryo wasn't on my radar screen. We wanted to do donor egg bc our if seemed to be due to my age, and if we used my eggs, we would have one chance and not a great chance of success. With de we could do the shared risk program and have multiple chances and a guarantee. Since my dh didn't seem to be the issue, de would let us use his sperm, and I would get to carry the baby, so it seemed like our best option. We also could choose a donor with the criteria we were looking for...we chose one with the same ethnic background as me, and based on how similar our dds are,i think it was the right choice!

But I think donor embryo is also a great option, especially if finances are a concern. Since you're not waiting for a donor to be ready and then having to synch up, it can go quickly, once you've located appropriate embies.

A,nyhow that was wordy. I hoped it helped :)

 


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Mon, 06-27-2011 - 1:27am
I personally am going to have an FET with donor embryos on July 8th. We chose them for a couple of reasons. DH had a vasectomy years ago and when they tried to find some sperm last year they only found one. They said they could knock him out and try again, but there were no guarentees how many or few they would find. My eggs are 43 years old, so to ME there were no guarentees there either. We also decided we would rather have no genetic connection to either of us, than just one of us. As for cost, my clinics fees were only about 4900 plus meds. MUCH cheaper than donor eggs. Also we got to know that our batch of eggs have already produced a child, so that are "proven" so to speak. Also, while we werent really picky, we DID get matched with a profile where the donors do resemble us physically. We have a batch of 6 embies, 4 that are 2PN (almost as good as fresh) and 2 that are refrozen 4 cells. Hopefully our biggest decision will be deciding how many to transfer. Hope this info helps!! If you have any more questions, please dont hesitate to ask!!
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Mon, 06-27-2011 - 1:32pm

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Sat, 07-02-2011 - 12:41pm

Hello,

I am new here and need advice.

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Sat, 07-02-2011 - 10:21pm
We go through Cooper in Marlton, NJ. They will take you at 45, you just have to have a few extra medical tests. (ekg and b/w I believe). We were told a 6-12 month waiting list and got matched with donor embies in about 2 months. We were very lucky, but they are much more inexpensive than NEDC and snowflakes. Their website is ccivf.com. You can check them out. Good luck!! We are in a cycle now and if my lining finally cooperates on Tuesday, we should be doing our FET at the end of next week!!
Rana 42
Carl (almost) 44
Never doubt the concept of a true soulmate until you have experienced. There is nothing like it.
Hoping to have our dream come true......... a child to raise together