I am back! Anyone here from 2001/03?
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|Wed, 01-10-2007 - 10:09am|
I haven't been able to come to this board often in the last few years and couldn't post to reply to posts to offer my 2 cents.
This board has been such a tremendous help during the time I was hoping to conceive and then carrying my daughter that I wanted to be available to support women in the same situation. Unfortunately life has been too busy (a good kind of busy but still...) to do this.
In 2001 I had two daughters who were conceived before DH decided to have a vasectomy. In 2001 he agreed to TTC #3. After two home ICIs, no meds, no OPKs, just basal body temp and observing changes in the cervix and cervical mucous, I conceived my daughter whom I birthed at home with a midwife after an uneventful pregnancy.
My worries about how would #3 being a DI baby affect the relationship between DH and #3 were unnecessary. My daughter has taken to DH right away and even though being a father isn't the most important thing in his life for him (unfortunately) he truly loves his daughters and has an especially close relationship with our youngest.
We disclosed to our older kids when they both were old enough to understand what DI means. They were 10 and 7 (we wanted to wait for the younger one to be old enough too) and especially my oldest had many questions that kept coming for a while, you could tell she was thinking about it quite a bit. We haven't told #3 yet, she is 4 now and I have no set plan on how and when but will decide spontaneously.
Before I conceived my daughter I had an overwhelming longing for a new baby in my life. Since DH had chosen to have a vas after our 2nd child was born (against my 'consent', I wasn't so sure I was done having babies:-) I got really sad, my head knew I had two healthy children and that was really enough but my belly really yearned for 'one more'. When DH finally gave me the 'Go Ahead' I was SO happy! The time after the decision was made was very taxing - as most of you have experienced also.
My greatest wish was, that I would, after having given birth to my baby, never have 'baby lust' again, because Dh would not consent to having a fourth child. So far I am lucky, I have my hands full, feel that my family is complete and know that I couldn't have the energy and patience needed to mother another child the way I think is the right way for me(nursing on cue, carrying baby, co-sleeping etc). I am very glad about the fulfillment I feel now and hope it stays that way.
Wow, this has gotten really long,I hope you're still with me:-)
I am curious who else is still around, lurking, TTCing, pregnant with a new baby or mothering a new little miracle!
Fertile vibes to all TTCing and best wishes to all of you, Elisia