intro and choosing egg donor ques.

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Wed, 02-16-2011 - 1:45pm

I was on the IVF board twice in Aug. and Oct.,

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Registered: 08-01-2002
Wed, 02-16-2011 - 9:15pm
Welcome to our board. I personally used donor sperm so I don't have any personal info on egg donation. I jsut want to wish you luck.
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Wed, 02-16-2011 - 9:36pm
Hi Brigid!

I conceived my second DD w/ DE (she's now almost 9 months old).

Choosing a donor is definitely a challenging task! I first took a first perusal through the database and found some possibilities. Then I made a "pro and con" list of each donor. For instance, having blue eyes or several blue eyed relatives (I have blue eyes) was a pro, as was musical ability or German heritage. Having asthma or multiple relatives with high blood pressure was a con. Then I looked at the pros and cons and tried to get an overall gestalt for each donor. Ultimately I chose the donor who just "felt right" to me. She has the same heritage (German/Dutch), is a little taller than I am, has brown eyes but several blue eyed relatives, some of the same interests but less schooling than I have. She had childhood asthma but no other red flags as far as health. I didn't look too much at the "proven donor" status which I know a lot of people look at, but in the case of this particular donor, there were eggs in the frozen bank, so I knew we were guaranteed 4 eggs (it was a frozen oocyte cycle).

Ultimately I figured I'm far from a perfect person - I have some minor health issues and am adopted so I don't really know my own family history - so I don't expect my donor to be a perfect person either.

The most important thing is feeling comfortable with the donor you choose, so if you're having trouble deciding, sit on it for a bit.

BTW, will this be a 1:1 cycle or do you share? If it's 1:1, then 13 eggs isn't too shabby - especially if there are embryos to freeze. As I said, I was allotted only 4 eggs, two fertilized, and both were transferred. One stuck and became my beloved DD :) So it just takes one ;)

 


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Thu, 02-17-2011 - 12:24pm

I agree with Gespenst....we looked at our donor list and we narrowed it down to the one's we liked intially.

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Thu, 02-17-2011 - 1:59pm

They both "feel right"

Brigid, 42 yrs. old, daughter born 2002, Pregnant! Due date Jan. 6, 2012 Son born Dec. 29! Lilypie First Birthday tickers
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Thu, 02-17-2011 - 2:02pm

Cute son and cute dog!

Brigid, 42 yrs. old, daughter born 2002, Pregnant! Due date Jan. 6, 2012 Son born Dec. 29! Lilypie First Birthday tickers
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Thu, 02-17-2011 - 2:09pm

I should have directed my "cute son and dog" comment to packersnumber1.

Brigid, 42 yrs. old, daughter born 2002, Pregnant! Due date Jan. 6, 2012 Son born Dec. 29! Lilypie First Birthday tickers
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Registered: 11-29-2005
Thu, 02-17-2011 - 2:22pm
Aw, thanks!

It's definitely a tough decision. I understand the dilemma. I think the older donor sounds like a better "match" for you, but I know you're worried about her age. But if you're not splitting the cycle, then the 13 eggs and 2 transferred/2 frozen sounds like a good cycle. I hope that that cycle resulted in a pg!

Lots of baby dust to you! I hope that you are able to make a decision you feel good about - and frankly, both options are good, so I don't really think you can go wrong!

(oh, and it was clear you were responding to packersnumber1 even though the post came at the end - up top it says "in reply to," to keep that straight, but the posts are chronologic :) )

 


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Thu, 02-17-2011 - 9:28pm
I was not very picky about donor ethnicity but I was super picky about donor stats. My main criterion were same race and education ( 4 year degree). However, after a m/c on my first donor cycle, I went with a proven donor with live births. Guess it worked, I have 6 month old twin boys.
Good luck to you,
Gabrielle

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Fri, 02-18-2011 - 8:13am
It is difficult, that is for sure. DH and I have 5 children together and they have blue eyes and dk blond hair. So, we tried to choose a donor that had features that would blend in with the kids, not necessarily traits that I have. I have dk brown hair but chose a donor with dk blond hair/blue eyes like my kids. We also looked at extended families hair/eye/height. Overall health was very important for us too. Education was not a huge criteria for us as we believe education is a by product of your environment/upbringing.

My first cycle in Dec. I went with a repeat donor and she didn't respond well. Only 2 mature eggs in total. The girl we chose this time was a firt time donor but has children and is married. She was 25 years old.

But ultimately, it is like Spencer said, it just needs to feel right. It is like your gut instinct kicks in and you just know, this is the one.

G/L and best wishes to you.

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Mon, 02-21-2011 - 2:10pm

Well, we decided on the younger donor -- the one who is not a previous donor, but has a daughter of her own.

Brigid, 42 yrs. old, daughter born 2002, Pregnant! Due date Jan. 6, 2012 Son born Dec. 29! Lilypie First Birthday tickers

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