Intro... Embryo adoption??

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Registered: 01-22-2007
Intro... Embryo adoption??
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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 9:10am

Hello, my name is Carla and my other half is Rob. Due to cancer I had a hysterectomy. I have found a TS, which later backed out. Rob and I discussed our options and want to go the GS/ Donor embryo route. I found a GS, but I don't know where we will find the money for the embryo donation. Has anyone found donor embryos at a reduced cost?

Money wouldn't be the main problem, but before the hysterectomy I tried IVF. I tried it a few times, I guess I had to say I tried. I didn't produce real viable eggs.

Now with a clean bill of health, I still want to be a mother. I don't know where to turn and I feel alone in my infertilty though I know there are many that share the heartbreak. I sometimes feel like I am holding Rob back from having a family since he is perfectly normal. He says I am not and he's the luckiest man alive to have me by his side, though I'd like to say it's the reverse.

Rob is adopted, as is my father so infertility isn't a new thing to our families. My grandmother is still alive and doesn't really speak of it, Rob's mother says I'll live if I never have children. Coming from a person that experienced infertilty herself I found the comment rather cold, but I do understand her point.

So here I am full of hope and a continuing dream looking for an alternate route to motherhood. I don't know of anyone in my life that can answer my billion questions, but I've been reading so much my eyes burn, I've been reading daily for nearly 4 years about surrogacy alone. I just want some guidance on where I can find donor embryos, I am so sorry I went on and on about myself. Any help would be great appreciated! Thank you in advance for you time!

Sincerely,

Carla

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Registered: 12-12-2005
Mon, 01-22-2007 - 9:28pm

Carla,

If you look at the Embryo DOnation Question post and pull up response #6, there is some really good information as well as some websites listed for reference.

I don't know what to tell you about the financial burden except look into every place imaginable to find it. Can you get a home equity loan? Do you have any retirement funds you can borrow from or withdrawl? Can you take out a personal loan? The agency's might even have some suggestions for you. We got a HELOC to fund this DE cycle. If this doesn't work we are ALL out of funds.

Good luck with your search. If you really want to be a mom don't let anyone tell you it's okay if you aren't. Keep fighting for it. We felt it was worth the gamble ($$)to try and have nothing, than to have not tried at all.

jody