New here- weighing DS IUI vs. ICSI
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|Mon, 05-21-2007 - 3:21pm|
Hi everyone I am new to this board. My DH has severe male infertility and we are dealing with time pressures, as I am nearing 39 and we want 2 kids. DH is being for prostatitis with anti-inflammatories, and had 2 weeks of antibiotics. We don't know if that helped yet. He also has a varicocele that he got a sono for today. Unfortunately the surgery for that can take many months to be effective and there is no guarantee it will even help, so we are feeling like we can't afford to wait for that.
I had yet another talk with DH about our options and he brought up the idea of using donor sperm again instead of IVF/ICSI. He asked how much it cost and I said I didn't think it was that much, definitely much less that IVF/ICSI, but realized I really don't know. Can anyone tell me how much this cost them per cycle (do cost decrease after 1 with donor sperm, as you've already selected a donor?), and how many cycles it took to get pg?
I love my DH so much he is so sweet. He adores all kids and I know he will make a wonderful father. I want to know he is really OK with this option and he seems to be fine with it, as he's brought it up several times. He said once I'm pregnant he doesn't think it will matter how we got there, and it doesn't seem to matter to him if it is his DNA or not. I asked him what would be the deciding factor as to what to choose (donor sperm or IVF/ICSI) and he said whatever get you pregnant faster. Of course $$$ is an issue, especially if the IVF/ICSI didn't work on the first cycle.
Does anyone know if IVF/ICSI is cheaper the second cycle if you can use frozen embies from round one, and by how much??
I guess I am coming around to the idea of using donor sperm. It's difficult for me to get my head around because I know using my own eggs is a priority for me, but I know not everyone feels that way. If I could not get pg with my own eggs I would be open to donor eggs, but only after I'd given my own eggs a good chance. I would like to have my husband's bio child but honestly that is not as important to me as it is to use my own eggs, as long as it is not a priority for him.
I know DH is concerned about the cost as well, and I think IUI with donor sperm would be cheaper. My FSH is excellent and HSG showed no problems, so I could be quite fertile still. DH's motility has only been at a 1.5 on a scale of 1-4 (no rapid forward movement/incapable of fertilization), so getting pg so far has been impossible no matter how fertile I am.
Another option would be IUI with donor sperm and the varicocele surgery, in the hopes of being able to get pg naturally or with IUI with DH's sperm for baby #2.
I feel like these are such big, irreversible decisions it is hard to know what is the right choice for us. I don't want to have regrets. I really think my DH will love and feel connected to our kids no matter where the DNA comes from. I worry if we use donor sperm his family won't love our kids as much as his sisters, that are bio children. Is that crazy?
Has anyone here made that choice, between donor sperm and ICSI? What did you choose and are you happy with the decision?