pregnant from Donor sperm

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Registered: 04-30-2007
pregnant from Donor sperm
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Thu, 02-14-2008 - 3:13pm
Hi I am new to this board. I am currently 7 months pregnant. I ma 35 and DH is 45. DH was diagnosed with azoospermia 1 yr. after we married. We will be married 4 yrs in July. I had fertility issues as well .pcos,hYPOTHYROIDISM and polyps. Any way we had are first DIUI IN april it did not take. WE switched docs ( weren't happy with the tratment we got with initail 1. Then in Aug. had are 2nd DIUI. we could only do it 1 more time do to insurance not paying for it and donor sperm. After yrs. of being told we would likely not get pregnant. We are overjoyed that we have a baby boy growing inside me. Dh is so happy. This

 

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Thu, 02-14-2008 - 3:35pm

First and foremost, WELCOME! Thank you so much for sharing your story, it gives the rest of us hope that we will someday have the lil' bundle we've been dreaming of:) I, myself, am on my 3rd round of Donor IUI and will have to wait until the 26th to find out if it worked. I HAVE told my close friends (The one's that can keep a secret) but I haven't told my mom and dad. I believe it's your choice who you tell and it's truly heartbreaking that you can't even tell your own mother!! It really must be tearing you apart but would your mother really put her religion before her family? I am going to tell my mother eventually, I just don't need the added stress of her not "agreeing with it" right now. I do know in my heart of hearts that she WILL accept the baby as her grandchild and she will be as excited as we are when we do conceive. The one thing I do know is this is YOUR life to live and you shouldn't have to sacrafice your happiness for the sake of iggnorance(sp) I truly hope you find peace with whatever decisions you make and take this time to enjoy your pregnancy and that lil' guy growing inside you:) CONGRATULATIONS!! Just remember we will be here if you need to talk to someone:)


P.S. I'm truly sorry if I offended you in any way, that surely was not my intention!!

Denise

Denise

D/IUI #1-7 = BFN, D/IUI #8  10-14-08 = BFN

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Registered: 04-30-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 4:48pm
Thank you for responding. First I hope I did not upset anyone for posting here. I did not realize I posted in the TTC part. Also you did not offend me. I am not sure if we will ever tell. Right now I am just taking it 1 day at a time. I am so happy to be pregnant. Sometimes it feels like a dream. I will say a prayer for you and your husband that your DIUI worked I know all about waiting. I hope you get a BFP. Thanks again for responding. I don't feel so alone now knowing there are other people just like me in my DH. Thanks again.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 5:41pm

Congratulations and welcome to our board.

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Thu, 02-14-2008 - 7:01pm

Hello, Welcome and Congratulations!

Hugs to you for having the need to take this path, but what a wonderful path you are on now! Wishing your family many happy, healthy years.

As for telling, I'm generally in the disclosure camp, but I know there are plenty of people out there who don't choose to tell anybody. There are people out there with strong beliefs... Frankly, you have time. Let your Mom enjoy being a Grandma for a while. You may later find that telling her isn't as big a deal as you thought... or not. Every situation is a little different.

Hope to see you continue to post!

Happy Valentine's Day!

Deb


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 8:27pm

Just wanted to also add a big welcome and congratulations!


You are definitely not alone!

*** Joiseygoil ***

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 2:19am

HI and welcome! We too did donor IUI and have a wonderful son, although it took us 9 more tries than you!

There is a slippery slope in telling some people and not others, especially if you think it might slip so you might want to be careful.

I really don't want it to be a "shameful" secret, if that makes sense because we are not at all shameful!

But like you, my inlaws would not have understood, but more because they are uneducated, ignorant, stubborn Ma & Pa Kettle old fashioned folks. It didn't help that in high school DH supposedly got his ex pregnant, which they still believe. DH and I know it couldn't have happened, but what to do 20 years later?

I waivered on telling the inlaws, until about my 5th month. Some how my sister got put into a conversation with FIL and he told me it didn't matter, because she was NOT my sister because she was adopted.

And it didn't matter what I felt or what the legal papers said, she didn't count as family.

I completely lost it - pregnant hormones and all those hidden worries about rejection came tearing out of me. What if DH thought like his Dad?

Of course DH didn't and his mother was so sick at the time, he didn't want to tell. It was always Mom is sick/dying so lets not burden her, it doesn't matter because he is so young.

MIL is gone now and Danny is getting to the point that we really need to make a decision. But now, its not something we think about either. Or really talk about...unless I am here on the board, I forget! And I know DH does too.

We have told Danny that "doctors made him" and how some women have to go different route to get babies, etc. He knows that kind of stuff just not the actual bird and the bees portion yet.

7 is very young after all...and 8 isn't that much better. I would hope at 9 he isn't ready for such responsiblity either...(LOL - I was trying to sound like Professor Dumbledore in HP 5...didn't work!)

Welcome!!!!

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