RE's reaction to donor sperm?
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|Mon, 06-11-2007 - 1:44pm|
We had our first consultation with the RE last week. My DH has male infertility (severe motility issues). He is being treated for prostatitis with antibiotics and antiinflammatories, but so far we have not seen any results from treatment, though we still hope to.
We are doing a natural IUI cycle is a few days in the hopes that the sperm washing process will boost the forward progression from a 2 to at least a 3, and by getting closer to the egg we might have a chance at getting pg.
We are going to get some genetic testing done, because DH's sister has a reversed chromosome, which the RE said can cause infertility- automatic miscarriage. If this is the case we would have a hight risk of total failure/miscarriage with ART and if we did manage to conceive with ART, we could pass infertility onto our kids.
I know the risk of genetic defects and heart problems is greater in kids conceived with ICSI. I'm not sure if I'm comfortable with that.
Anyway the RE said that if the antibiotics don't improve DH's counts, and if the sperm washing process doesn't improve the motility enough, due to my age (39 next month) our best bet may just be to go straight to ICSI. When she said this I said we may want to consider donor sperm if that's the case and she sounded SHOCKED, "Wow, OK, well that's a new direction". She didn't say anything else, but the tone of her voice just sounded shocked.
Has anyone else gotten this sort of reaction from RE's?
It seems like the assumption is automatically that we would want to use the riskiest, most expensive procedure. (We have NO coverage and all testing and treatment is out of pocket)
I was kind of offended by the RE's reaction...I don't want to feel judged for our decision it is our family, our kids and our dime. While having genetic kids is important to me, my DH has said it really doesn't matter to him, he just wants a healthy baby as quickly as possible, without straining ourselves financially. I would like to have DH's genetic child but I need to know more about the risks of ICSI. I wouldn't want to invest all that money if there was a significant risk of total failure. I also would not be comfortable with a significant risk of passing on infertility to our kids or genetic defects that would cause health problems in our kids.
Anyway I asked DH how he felt about the RE and he was not offended by anything so I guess I'll let it slide for now and see how my bnext appointment goes. I was just wondering if anyone else had gotten this reaction.