Still in limbo, still frustrated

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Still in limbo, still frustrated
Thu, 10-15-2009 - 10:37am
So now the communication is better with my clinic (the donor coordinator is back from maternity leave) but they are having trouble getting in contact with the donor to get her appointment scheduled. It's now going on 3 weeks since we confirmed her, and she has called once and left a message, but they haven't heard from her since despite leaving several messages. Now I am getting worried that this is going to cut into the holidays and she's going to hem and haw about that. I am so beyond frustrated, I have been waiting for this cycle to start for over 6 months, and really since Jan (though 3 months of that was our choice to wait). I am going on 4 months on the pill. I just want to get started!!!



Mason James was born 8/21/10, 8lbs 12 oz after close to 3 years of infertility.
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Thu, 10-15-2009 - 10:55am
I'm sorry Amber.

Mom to Sebastian Robert after 3+ years of infertility

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Thu, 10-15-2009 - 11:22am
Gosh Amber, I'm so sorry that she is dragging her feet like this.


TTC since 6/2007. 
IVF #1 Jan 2009 - BFN
IVF# 2  April 2009 - BFN
IVF# 3 July

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Thu, 10-15-2009 - 12:27pm

Amber, this is so frustrating! I hate this part the most about this whole process. you're relying on someone else and clearly, no matter how much that someone else truly wants to help, they don't want it as much as YOU want it. it's highly frustrating.

Can you have your clinic be more proactive w/ her? Like call her EOD until she gives them an answer one way or another?


TTC May, 2007Initial Diagnosis: MFI4 IUI's w/ Clomid- all BFNIVF #1 June- Lupron protocol. 9 eggs, 6 mature, 4 fertilized, 3 day transfer, 1 x 7 cell grade A= BFNDiagnosis: bad eggsIVF #2 September- Antagon protocol. 6 eggs, 5 mature, 4 fertilized, 3 day transfer, 2 x 8 cell perfect embies, 1 x 5 cell slow-poke.Result: POSITIVE beta on 10/6- 43.7Beta #2 on 10/8: 139, Beta # 3 on 10/10: 382u/s #1 on 10/17: 1 sac measuring 5w3dM/C on 10/24Next up: seeking 2nd opinion of doc who specializes in diagnosis and m/c. Diagnosis: Low ovarian reserve and problem w/ Sperm DNA (DFI)DH on high doses of Antioxidants to help w/ DFI. Results went from 30.7% down to 17.2%! YIPPEEE!!IVF #3 February, 2009- Retrieval 2/22/09-5 eggs2/23/09- Fert report. Only 1 mature egg out of the 5. It did fertilize normally2/25/09- ET- Transfered one perfect 8 cell embie. STICK BABY STICK!!3/7/09- AF Arrived. BFNMay, 2009- IVF #45/14/09- Retrieval of 16 eggs, 9 mature, 7 fertilized5/17/09- Transfer of 4 embies- one 8 cell grade A, one 7 cell grade A, two 6 cell grade B5/29/09- BFP! HCG: 121. 6/1/09 HCG: 407. 6/3/09: HCG 984. 6/5/09: HCG 20536/8/09- early u/s showing gestational sac- no yolk. HCG only rose to 3,698. Not a good sign6/10/09- more u/s and bw6/16/09- no yolk sac- m/c D&CNEXT UP: DE w/ my sister as the donor. Lupron to begin on 8/25/09. Stims started on 9/7/09


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2 m/c's

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Thu, 10-15-2009 - 8:46pm

Thanks everyone.

Kate- I left a message with the agency telling them what is going on (she knows that I want this to happen ASAP, that was even a condition of us picking this donor, that she be ready to go ASAP) and that if she doesn't call to schedule her appointment within the next week we want to work with someone else.

The person who does the scheduling at the clinic said she is going to try to get an email address for her.



Mason James was born 8/21/10, 8lbs 12 oz after close to 3 years of infertility.
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Thu, 10-15-2009 - 9:34pm
I am so sorry things are moving so slowly.

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Fri, 10-16-2009 - 11:50am

This is crazy!

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Fri, 10-16-2009 - 12:54pm


If you switched clinics at this point would you be out the money or would they reimburse you for your troubles? I would be through the roof!! I am amazed you are hanging on as well as you are.

I'm still keeping my fingers crossed that your donor shows up.

Hugs to you,


Franklin and Callan