Thinking of using an egg donor

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Thinking of using an egg donor
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Sun, 01-07-2007 - 1:20am
My husband and I have been married for six years and have been unable to conceive on our own. I just turned 44 and I'm a little concerned about having children at my age. Maybe that it's too late. Anyone have any advice? I have supplemental insurance that will pay 80% up to a $30,000 maximum. I'm interested to know how quickly I would use that benefit up.

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Registered: 12-12-2005
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 9:25pm

It's not too late at 44 as long as your RE agrees and you are in fairly good health. SOme RE's will do cycles with donor eggs on woman as old as 49 and into the early 50's if the woman feels up to it. Your chances with donor eggs are much greater. A donor egg cycle, depending on where you live could cost $20-$25K without insurance. We have no insurance coverage for IVF and we have paid $22k so far, transfer should be in mid-February.

We started the journey on donor eggs 6 months ago so I am excited to be getting started! Good Luck with whatever you decide!

Jody

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Registered: 08-09-2004
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 10:41pm
Hi,
I'm thinking that if you do IVF with donor eggs, you might not have to use all that $30,000, especially if you go with a very young, proven donor (one that has already done a few cycles of IVF and had successful response to the drugs).
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 10:57pm
Thanks for your response.
My husband and I haven't even had a consult with the reproductive center yet. I know almost nothing about what to expect. Any information you can give would be greatly appreciated.
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 11:06pm
I know very little about donor programs. My husband and I still need to have a consultation with the reproductive center. We have just finally decided that we want to proceed if it's at all affordable for us. I have the insurance and I want to use it if it can. The only thing I do know is that before we have any fertility treatments is that I will need to have myomectomy proceedure done to remove fibroids. The myomectomy can probably be done before May of this year. After that I think I would need to wait three months to attempt getting pregnant.
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Registered: 08-03-2005
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 11:06pm

hi there,


best of luck to you.

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Registered: 08-09-2004
Mon, 01-08-2007 - 8:19pm
Hi,
I am still searching for a donor myself and am kind of new to this process, but the most important decision to make (I feel), is whether we use an independent donor (not affiliated with an agency), or go through an agency. If you find a donor through an agency, its usually 100% anonynous and the records are sealed forever, so your child would never be able to find out info about his DNA/genetics. A lot of people like this, though, esp. if they aren't planning to tell the child about his origins. If you go with an independent donor, its not anonymous - you will get to meet her, talk to her, etc. She could even visit your child from time to time while he's growing up. I think you would have to decide what you want.
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Mon, 01-08-2007 - 10:14pm
Thanks for the information :).
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Registered: 08-03-2005
Mon, 01-08-2007 - 10:55pm

i don't believe

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Mon, 01-08-2007 - 11:14pm
I was under the impression that if you went with a Infertility clinic that they would have the donors available. I thought that the charge for the donor would be part of the price you are paying the clinic. I would totally go with the anonymous donor. Otherwise its kind of like adopting for me. I definitely don't want to adopt.
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Registered: 11-16-2006
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 10:37am

I don't have any information other than my own personal experience. The RE that I went with was a one stop shop. I paid her $13K (not including the medications/labs/ultrasounds). The med's get very pricey but once prego, the ultrasounds/labs are covered by insurance. Her practice did all of the screening of the potential donor's and matched you up to one. I know very little about her besides hair/eye color and that she has met all of the requirements (physical, mental, health bkgd) of being a donor. She had donated 1 x before (this dr. will only let women donate twice), and both woman got pregnant. However, if I had decided that I didn't want to go with her (not sure why anyone would not opt to), they would have put me on the bottom of the waiting list again. I was put on the waiting list in January, started meds in June, transferred in August and am now 24 weeks pregnant. You just need to talk to your RE and start the research process. Personally, this was a very easy process for us and I feel lucky that our RE has such an amazing facility that takes a lot of the guess work out of it for you. You can hand choose a donor and never know everything about her. The goal is to have a healthy happy child and we are on that road!! The best thing about this is that we received 1/2 of the eggs retrieved (costs were split with another couple). So I now have 11 embroyo's frozen and the cost associated with thawing/implanting is only $2,000 per cycle. So I will never have to try and track down another donor and worry about how many more times she's going to donate to have my kids have the same genetics.

Hope that helps. Good luck with your journey!!! It's so worth it!!!

DD

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