What did you look for in a donor?

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What did you look for in a donor?
Thu, 02-02-2012 - 3:55pm

What type of characteristics did you look for in a donor?

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Registered: 09-27-2007
Fri, 02-03-2012 - 4:55pm
When I was searching for my sperm donor, I wanted to make sure his blood type was o+, open donor and CMV -; since I was. That alone gave me 3 options. My with my egg donor I wanted her to be o+ as well and have my same skin tone.
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Registered: 08-17-2007
Sat, 02-04-2012 - 6:59pm

I am very tall (6'2") and wanted my donor to be on the taller side.

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Sat, 02-04-2012 - 11:35pm

DH and I had pretty close to the same requirements. We both wanted a good health history. Nothing that was genetically an issue, and no major history of cancer or heart disease or lots of grandparents that died very young. A little blip here and there was fine. Such as one or 2 with diabetes or hypertension as DH has both of those and I have a family history of both, so it was basically like it would be if it was our biological child. We typically looked for embryos that would be Caucasian like us, but last time DH liked 2 sets that were not all Caucasian. One was half Indian and one was half Hispanic. One had had a set of triplet girls from the batch and the other had had 4 transfers from the batch all resulting in pregnancies. They were both on our list of choices that we submitted, although were not in our top 3 choices, mostly because the mothers were in their late 30's. We did not get matched with either of them, but it would have been fine if we had have been. My only concern was that giving birth to a child that was so obviously not ours biologically would cause more explanations than I had planned on giving. We have NOT been concerned much with physical attributes as we have the whole gambit of eye color and hair color in our families. The ones we have been matched with now DO have similar hair and eye color, although the donor female is taller than me and the donor male is shorter than DH. We are very lucky though because the couple that we got the embryos from actually used an egg donor themselves, so the egg donor is only 25. There HAS been at least one successful pregnancy from this batch, so hopefully we will have one as well!!

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Sun, 02-05-2012 - 11:45am
There were a lot of potential donors in the database at the time, so I started out by looking at donors who already had at least one person signed on (this is in a 3:1 shared donor cycle). That way I knew that at most I'd have to wait 30 days to finalize the match. I also looked at the frozen eggs.

I think that gave me about 6-8 possibilities. I went through each profile and took notes on things I thought were positive (like being musical or good in math/science, or blue eyes, or German heritage) and things that were negative (like personal or family history of medical issues, or unlike us in ethnicity). Then I looked at all of the positives and negatives together and decided which outweighed which. There were two I really liked, and one had frozen eggs available, so that's who we went with.

The donor is of German/Dutch heritage (as am I), has brown eyes but blue eyed family members, has asthma (I have allergies, so my bio DD is at risk for this as well) but otherwise good health history, works in the medical field (as do I) and is just in general a "good fit" imo. Looking at my DD, I am very confident that we made the right choice :) She's very similar to her sister in looks, and I think she looks a bit like me too ;) though she definitely favors her daddy.

DH is not a man with strong opinions when it comes to baby stuff. He agreed with my decision and didn't have any requirements of his own.


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Registered: 06-17-2011
Mon, 03-26-2012 - 6:53pm

As a single woman I based my donor choice on medical history, blood type & CMV status and what I feel will be a good pairing for my genetic background.

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Registered: 01-11-2008
Wed, 03-28-2012 - 9:30pm

My clinic doesn't have a donor pool so i had a lot of donors to choose from at different agencies .

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